I’ve been receiving some great questions recently-here’s one from Arturo Alvarez regarding the Law of Attraction.
Q. Hi Darren!! I work in the restaurant business and it takes most of my time, and at this point I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired of it. How do you apply the Law of Attraction to your own personal success?
A. One thing you will come to realize about me on this blog is I love straight, candid, tell-it-like-it-is talk, especially as it relates to the serious business of self-improvement. There is too much polite puffery and aggrandizing of success principles in today’s marketplace, in my opinion.
Let me clean up some misconceptions about the Law of Attraction that have gone haywire in the hands some savvy marketing of late…
1.) The Law of Attraction is not some big “secret” that was etched on tablets, buried by a secret society, and now is finally discovered and revealed. It is a simple and basic principle taught openly for hundreds of years.
2.) You can’t just sit on your tush in your living room imagining checks coming into your mailbox. You won’t have that living room for long. You have to ACT on your thoughts. You have to walk out your door and productively make something happen to get what you want in life. “Doing” has to follow “thinking.”
3.) It is not some mysterious, esoteric voodoo, as it sometimes sounds like it is being described.
Look, it is very simple; here is how “it” works…
What you think you are drawing (or attracting) into your life has always existed-you are now just seeing it. Let me give you an example-if I asked you to recount the number of Volkswagen bugs you have seen on the road in the last week, it would probably be very few, if any. If I challenged you to see how many VW bugs you can count in the next week, I bet you would be shocked at how many you would see. Now here is the big $64,000 question-did you attract VW bugs into your life all of a sudden, OR did you start focusing your attention on something that has been surrounding you all the time?
We are surrounded with billions of sensory (visual, audio, physical) inputs of information each day. To keep ourselves from going insane, we ignore 99.9 percent of them. You only really see, hear or experience those you focus your mind on. This is why when you “think” something, it appears that you are miraculously drawing it into your life, when actually you are now just seeing what was already there. In essence, you ARE “attracting” it into your life because it wasn’t there or accessible TO YOU until your thoughts focused your mind to see it. Make sense? It’s not mysterious at all, it’s actually quite logical. This is why what you think about is important-it will be precisely those things, circumstances and people you will now see, thus attract and experience, to validate those thoughts.
So, Arturo, to address your question directly-stop thinking about how sick and tired you are of the restaurant business-you will only draw experiences and references to validate those thoughts. Become clear about what you really want to do (direct your mind to see what’s around you to achieve it) and go out and do something to act on your ambition. Read, study and practice what you need to know and go meet the people you need to meet-the clues will be all around you, once you focus your mind on your objective. Your key will be taking action on what your newly focused thought process brings to your attention. Go make something happen, Arturo. You can do it! The fact you wrote in with this question means you already have the mindset and are taking action toward the change you seek in life. You are on your way!
Ask your success question and you might get to ask it on TV or have it answered in SUCCESS magazine or on this blog.
59 Responses
Ken Polino
12/Aug/2008 1Darren,
A super answer that clears up many misconceptions regarding the “secret”! Thought must always come first, but eventually-action rules. Thank you!
Ken Polino
larry sincalair
12/Aug/2008 2super duper information.
George Walters
12/Aug/2008 3Great information Darren. I knew you would rise to high places back in TPN
Congratulations…
George Walters
Craig Collins
12/Aug/2008 4Thank you for this very valuable information. I’m finding out first hand, If I don’t prospect/take acton, I can’t get any customers.
Guy Marvin
12/Aug/2008 5Thanks Darren, great answer. Essentially thoughts are things and we become what we think about (Earl Nightingale-The Strangest Secret).
Ken Saveth
12/Aug/2008 6This is greatr stuff. As many of the world’s leading motivational speakers will tell you, “We Become What We Think About!”. That is, what we constantly keep in the forefront of our minds, we are aware of & we act on those dominant thoughts. As Darren pointed out, the things, people & circumstances have always been there (like the VWs) but we are now cognizant of them.
Joe Hannah
12/Aug/2008 7I’m not sure why some think that “The Secret” is not advocating the doing part of the equation. It certainly does. There’s no reason to bash someone or some thing. “The Secret” has helped millions of people, just as Success Magazine has helped millions of people. We are comrades.
[DARREN HARDY] Comrades we are. Not bashing “The Secret”, simply saying the Law of Attraction is not a “secret”, some mysterious voodoo or that it will miraculously work… without you working. It is a logical, basic principle easily defined and applied. When packaged as some conspiracy concealment plot and a genie in a lantern description, sometimes the simple principle can become too esoteric and inaccessible for many.
Victor Reynolds
12/Aug/2008 8Many thanks for your post, Darren. It makes sense of the LOA.
Digendra
12/Aug/2008 9Excellent thought. It justifies almost everything in the life of the people..
Carolyn Pole
13/Aug/2008 10I like that answer and making the concept of manifestation practical and accessable to all. Good reminder about the action factor!!!
Intention, Visualization, Manifestation…The process is similliar to a seed, planted and watered long enough to show growth and bear fruit. We all have the inner knowing and power to create and co-create the lives we want…keep the focus and choose in each moment, that which aligns with your desire (highest good)!
Sam Danladi
13/Aug/2008 11Hi Darren,
Thanks for all you have been doing through your work, helping people around the world to succeed. I personally have been helped alot by the the practice of the law of attraction, however sometimes I just forget all about it and find myself doing the contrary. Please how do I remain focus on the path of success?
Thanks,
Sam Danladi
Abuja Nigeria
Arno Hammers
13/Aug/2008 12You are absolutely right!
Thoughts determine what you want, action determines what you get.
Noorsham
13/Aug/2008 13Thanks Darren, you clarify it in most logical ways. Watching secret leave you excited but puzzle how to apply it… do I know the power of thought and work too. Thank you.
Gary Nims
13/Aug/2008 14Your explanation of this principle is a direct hit. It’s not a secret but has been in plain sight in a variety of writings for centuries. One version (from the Bible) says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”
Eng. Shiribwa
13/Aug/2008 15Great answer. That is why Africa continues to be poor becaused many people think and talk poverty while the resources in the entire continent are in abundance.
Bill Crutchfield
13/Aug/2008 16Darren, Great explantion! It is amazing what you see all around you when you look with a new set of eyes, but you must be willing to act. Knowing and not taking action is like not knowing at all. Thanks for doing what you do!
Lynn Burchard
13/Aug/2008 17It certainly puts things into perspective. It is nice to refresh your mindset once in awhile…. and keep it simple.
Thanks
Dave G
13/Aug/2008 18Nice job Darren. Hoping for good things to happen is like playing the lottery. Clearly defined goals and consistent focused action towards those goals with the unwavering belief that they will be attained will “attract” the things that we seek. If our field of view does not extend past the television set (I heard someone refer to it as the “electronic income reducer”) in the living room, we do not see that there are unlimited opportunities available.
Meryl K. Evans
13/Aug/2008 19Darren, your VW bug example nailed it. Excellent concise explanation.
Berhan
13/Aug/2008 20What can I say, thank you for clearing up the confusion around the Law of Attraction!
Phyllis Holly-Ward
13/Aug/2008 21Hi Darren,
I look forward to seeing you on the Big Idea this Thursday. Regarding the Secret, I love your break down to make people understand it more clearly. However, the Secret is to be commended for getting people to start thinking about taking control of their lives.
Gayle
13/Aug/2008 22Very excellent words Darrin…..I agree with them, we all just have to put our best efforts before us to achieve what we want. Many people today don’t know about the law of attraction, or for that matter, know much about , self improvement….I’m learning alot about life, and success, from all the best. Thanks.
And yes I see VW’s here and there…LOL
Fireball Tim
13/Aug/2008 23Excellent response. My wife and I have decided to buy a certain car recently, and that’s exactly want we see every day. Even down to the color. Focusing on what we want with full concentration is the key. It NEVER fails.
Love the blog, Darren!
Keth
13/Aug/2008 24I would suggest The Secret has brought the attention of LOA to the masses. A good thing in general, but poorly executed. More presentation than hard fact based advice and this is what you have given. I think as The Secret as being the starting place for many, now the masses need sensible application guidance. Well done
Darryl
13/Aug/2008 25Life is about being aware. What you have done is make more people aware of HOW the “Law of Attraction” works. When people understand the process then they are better able to apply the principles. I have watched “The Secret” many times and have had several “AAHH” moments as a result, now I have a better understanding of WHY. As a result I am now more in control of WHEN.
Robyn
13/Aug/2008 26Bravo! Excellent answer Darren. It makes so much sense. Thoughts without action are only dreams not a reality.
Cheryl
13/Aug/2008 27You couldn’t be more on point in your explanation! I expecially loved how you debunked those voodoo-like suggestions that some folks are adding to the LOA. Thanks.
Othello
13/Aug/2008 28Darren,this is my first trip,andyou’ve put me on the right track already. Can’t thank you enough.
Drew Ritchie
13/Aug/2008 29Fantastic Article! Interestingly enough, I had a discussion last evening with my wife about this very thing (although I didn’t call it the Law of Attraction). Now if I can only get my business partner (my father) to believe in it as well!
Bobby Roaten
13/Aug/2008 30First time here, wow what a great analysis of LOA. Thank you
[DARREN HARDY] Welcome Bobby! Welcome All!!
Tony
13/Aug/2008 31‘The Secret’ certainly isn’t a secret but it is a heck of a marketing idea. And as many of the above have already state the “law of attraction” has been quoted and stated by many people over the years dating back certainly as far as the bible (Proverbs 23:7). But the point certainly is to go behind thinking about what you want at the exclusion of what you don’t want. You also have to have a plan to get what you want. And that plan will always involve doing something tomorrow that you are not doing today. If out of shape, you eat too much and don’t exercise. STOP. If you want to find a new mate then stop hanging around the same places doing the same things that you’ve been doing. The mate isn’t there. That is biggest hurdle people have. They never make the conscious observation that “Wow, I’m doing this to get my current result, I hate this current result, so starting right NOW I’ll begin a new and better habit.” I mean come on all you fire walkers, Tony Robins was teaching this 25 years ago. My friend Steve says it bad exchange pleasing outcomes for pleasing behaviors. In other words give up what you like doing to become what you would like to become.
Calvin Smith
13/Aug/2008 32I appreciate your explanation Darren. It truly helps me understand that I must take massive action to achieve my goals. I am thoroughly enjoying my subscription to Success Magazine. It’s awesome, inspirational and empowering. It’s a must have for entreprenuers!
Timothy Catlett Jr.
13/Aug/2008 33Very powerful and very true. The Law of Attraction coupled with Discipline and Decision making taught and promoted by John C. Maxell can truly set you free in all respects to life. As long as you apply yourself to improvement and stay consistent daily. Thanks Darren for your leadership and empowering words!
Timothy Catlett Jr.
09′ Director
Ophelia
14/Aug/2008 34Excellent!! Thanks for the clarification.
Wally Adams
14/Aug/2008 35You’ve put into words what i needed to understand.Thanks soooooooooo! much.
Domino
14/Aug/2008 36It has taken me a while to fully understand the whole concept. I went to the Symposium in Anaheim & it has changed my life. I’m now a doer & not a procrastinator. I have stopped with the negative self talk and honestly in such a short time I’ve made incredible accomplishments. Thank you for your wisdom Darren!
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Troy
15/Aug/2008 38Awesome blog Darren…articles like this will keep me coming back!
rachmat
15/Aug/2008 39THANK YOU DARREN FOR FINALLY GIVING A LOGICAL ANSWER OF HOW TO USE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION…..THANK YOU SO MUCH THIS REALLY HELPS FOR ME….:):):):)
Luis R. Alonso
15/Aug/2008 40The law of attraction has leaded me to this blog because I am focusing on success.
Thank You Darren!
JAYE MAXX ALEXANDER
16/Aug/2008 41WOW This is great pass thru information. We use to learn this way as children and this is want made us a great society and country… We as a society need to return to basics and we will all become sucessful… I truly love this community and the blog..keep up the great work ..
Joan Telfer
16/Aug/2008 42Thanks for simplifying the Law of Attraction. It brings to mind when I bought my first Honda Accord several years ago. I hardly ever saw that car on the road until after I left the dealership…it felt like every other car I saw was a Honda Accord, and only because it was forefront in my consciousness. Darren, I like your style of hitting the nail straight on the head.
Jeanne May
16/Aug/2008 43Hi Darren…
You are so right in that the information contained within the “Secret” is available, and has been available, to everyone each and every day throughout eternity. One of the benefits of “Secret” was that it bought these concepts out more into the public arena… it certainly has resulted in enormous dialogue between people which can only be positive!
Jeanne May
Larry
20/Aug/2008 44First timer! Thanks Darren. Your explanation presents a perfect bridge between dream and reality. I’ve started a new business and I needed this information. My being on this forum just tells me I have attracted what I sought for. It explains biblical faith put to works as well. God bless you and stay around a long time!!!
Gilbert NZ
20/Aug/2008 45Another first timer! Thank you Darren for this explanation. I haven’t read the ’secret’ but i’ve seen another version of it many years previously in Stuart Wilde’s book Affirmations which does definately explain it as you said in an ‘esoteric’ manner! I’m also about half way through Paul J Meyer’s course on the Dynamics of Personal Goal Setting. It seems that learning these things at different parts of my life journey are the steps that have brought me to this point (or attracted me to this blog) whereby i finally understand HOW and WHY things work so that i can decide WHEN i want things to happen. I can drop the esoteric side now however i’ll probably keep some of it for now as it gives you a warm emotional feeling to go with all this cold logic!
John
21/Aug/2008 46Great response! Thanks Darren for clearly stating this principle.
Vicki
21/Aug/2008 47What a great reminder your answer is! It never has been any good simply sitting, thinking about your dreams. To make them into achievable goals you have to add ACTION.
Tiana
21/Aug/2008 48I beg to differ with Keith. The Secret is not the ’starting place’ for me….but the glue that puts 30-some years of study together for me. Starting with ‘How to Make a Habit of Succeeding’ by Mack Douglas in the early ’70’s …to ‘Think and Grow Rich’…. Dale Carnegie’s ‘ How to Win Friends and Influence People’, as well as his course in public speaking…. on down through the years with the likes of Tony Robbins, Victor Frankl, ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’…. as well as several years subscribing to ‘Success Magazine’… to recent aquisitions such as ‘The Attractor Factor’, Joe Vitale…. ‘Success Principals’, Jack Canfield… and most recently, ‘The Aladdin Factor’, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen…it wasn’t until I watched ‘The Secret’ that I realized I had LIVED it in 1970… WROTE about it in 1990… updated and PUBLISHED it in 2000 WITHOUT RECOGNIZING IT!
Briefly, my then 3 1/2 year old son KNEW Santa was bringing him ‘Marvel the Mustang’. There were none to be found…until just before stores would be closing on Christmas Eve, I made a right turn (was GUIDED!) to take ‘one more look’ around town…when there in a storefront window stood Marvel the Mustang! In a FABRIC store, no less. My little boy said ‘I told you!’ to the older kids when he got it. He KNEW he was getting it. He never knew what a near disaster it was for me!
But seeing the scenario of the little boy and the bicycle in ‘The Secret’ brought it home for me! After all these years I have never been successful to any great degree. This is over. I know THE SECRET now! Yes, it’s always been there… in plain sight. HIDDEN. You’ve heard of ‘hidden in plain sight’, haven’t you?
Gene Smith
21/Aug/2008 49The Secret is a great project. I’ve read the book and listened to it on CD 2 times. It has opened up a whole new world of thinking for me. You are right, it is no secret, unless you haven’t heard it or know of it. Once you read the book, you realize it was no secret afterall. As a man thinks, so is he. What ever we focus on, that’s the thing we’ll bring into our lives. I think the Secret wakes us up. It really is so simple and yet so profound.
Thanks Darren, great work.
Richard Bliss Brooke
21/Aug/2008 50Consider the following: Action massive or not is always preceeded by the Motiviation to Act. Action does not happen by itself. The Secret speaks to thoughts and focus which do attract the conditions required to manifest them.
And…When thoughts, intention and focus are crafted into a properly documented Vision and studied religously, self motivation will flow. Self Motivation not only attracts what we need but more importantly LEADS us to act to in accordance with our vision.
We can force ourselves via dicipline and consicous committment to act short term. But only a clear vision will lead us to act consistantly, naturally and powerfully.
Gloria Davidson
22/Aug/2008 51First time, also–thank you for stating so simply the LOA. I understand what I want and know that the action I (don’t) take determines what I get.
I’m struggling to launch my online travel business. I know I need to call people, but I feel paralyzed to pick up the phone. I know what I’m supposed to say, but fear that I won’t say it right when I need the words to come out. I’m told that if I “hang-in-there” it will come to me. I need to find it within me to do what I need to do to get the results I want.
(I watched the Secret DVD many times and read the book). What is the “magic” button to turn me on–it’s right here but I don’t see it! Thank you for your help.
lita hill
24/Aug/2008 52I feel the same exact way as Gloria right now. I know what I need to do but feel paralyzed to take the action and spend the money to market myself. I recently got my real estate license.. Well, not so recently now, it’s been since January and needless to say I have not made one sale or had a listing on my own. I am so discouraged and can only hear the naysayers that kept telling me I was wasting my time and money on real estate right now because of the economy. I don’t want to quit but I can’t seem to get started either…. I have spent alot of money on business cards, flyers, and my license/classes and haven’t made a dime. Someone kick me in the backside!!!! lol! yes I too have the DVD of the Secret and bought the CD’s and listen to Tony Robbins and all the gurus what’s wrong with me? It seems to come so naturally to some.
TD
26/Aug/2008 53Hi Lita-
Let me tell you that you are doing everything right. My Mom recently had lung cancer and it was the equivalent of open heart surgery to remove her tumor and 20% of her lung. This was her 3rd battle with cancer, which was God’s way of letting me know life is short and fleeting. Let me tell you that I am kicking it in the tail business wise now more than ever. I have been in real estate for over 7 years and I have talked to many successful real estate investors. They have told me to keep looking, run the numbers, make sure the deal makes sense, and stick to your guns. Mark Victor Hansen said we all get hit in the stomach sometimes in life and he said you have to know this four letter word “NEXT”. There is always another deal and everyday someone, somewhere needs to sell and they don’t want to go through the hassle of doing it themselves. Remember what Harry Truman had on his desk as President, “NIL ILLEGITIMI CARBORUNDUM”!! Keep your head up and God bless!!
fernando serrano
27/Aug/2008 54I feel the same way as Gloria and Lita. I am in sales and marketing business and I’ve been with this company for a year now and I haven’t made any money but spent a lot on business cards, flyers, and trainings. I know what to do and say but i feel discourage every time I get rejected by a prospect. I’ve been reading books, audios, going to seminars and watch the secret many times. I’ve gotten so many no’s and people pulling me down and just recently my transmission on my car went out and I had to take it to the shop. it’s going to cost me $2500 to fix which I don’t have. my friend is kind enough to lend me the money but now I owe a lot of people money. I just recently told myself enough is enough, I am tired of being broke and not getting what I want. I’ve committed myself to taking serious massive action. I cleared my head took out the trash in my mind and really focus on my dreams and goal and taking it step by step on achieving it. I just want to tell Gloria and Lita to hang in there and don’t quit. TAKE MASSIVE ACTION… NOW!!! Thanks Darren for making it clear. SUCCESS RULES BABYYYY………
[DARREN HARDY] Good for you Fernando! You Go!!
Jay
27/Aug/2008 55Great point… another thing to help attract and manifest things in your life is to have a great mentor, find someone who is already doing what you are doing and learn from them.
Here is THE SECRET BEHIND THE SECRET…
Learn Specific Tips & Secrets from SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE.
James McKnight
02/Sep/2008 56Excellent answer. I teach both at work and evening college. I shared the Secret to my students, because the mysticalness kept there attention and made them think the information was old and new thereby making them pay more attention. My fellow workers I merely explained to them, logically, they didn’t change, my students did.
Bill Covert
05/Sep/2008 57Great words Darren. Too often people believe that by simply thinking about a thing, it brings that thing about. Nice in theory huh? Thinking about something clarifys what it is that you DO want… but then that’s when further steps are required. There is a 12 step process that DOES bring about the things people desire… yet it takes Action and Work. The process is called DREAM BAR CAFE. It is described at Accelerator For Success. For every Effect there is a Cause!
Your friend,
Bill Covert
Rocheflume Flores Cerro
09/Sep/2008 58Great explanation, Darren! You really hit the right words in connecting to the avid individual like us who are wanting and is working for the Law of Attraction works for us, to get what we want to achieve in life. Indeed, “the Secret”, is an eye-opener for those who are wanting and willing to learn. When i read the book, i was so excited that it really give me a goose-bump because i know that i have “the secret” with me already. It’s just that we never did know that it spells SUCCESS. And i know some will share my notions on that. And since we are all aware now, we are cautious and on guard of our thoughts and actions. As James Allen said, “As man thinketh, so are we”.. Our mind is the master weaver., it makes us… And Dalai Lama’s teaching is, “We are what we think”.. Almost all philosophers and successful people imparted to us that it is our thinking that can make a difference… We have to feed our mind with positive thoughts so that we will attract the positive vibration.
The Law of Attraction will really work as long as we tend to focus on what we want, plus we have to feed our mind with the right words and the right thoughts to get a good feeling. Our thoughts and feelings should synchronized with our actions to make a great attraction.
Thanks so much, Darren! I really do appreciate your explanation. I need that for my discussions. I’m trying to share what i learned also.
Jennifer P
07/Oct/2008 59Let ~~ Law of Attraction ~~ work for you. Your business will grow if you doing right thing (good way) in Law of Attraction.
I see it, I am a new business owner. While I was in new to this business, one of my team give me bad “law of attraction” to me, I was getting hate my team because they hurt me lot and I also did copy their bad law of attraction to my team and outside of my business. Until someone come to me and say/talk about law of attraction it change me and to understand the law of attraction. It make sense about law of attraction. Guess what… I see my business grow little better than before. That person still have bad law of attraction, their business was not grow. I keep going because I keep focus on my dream. My good law of attraction was start hit lot people by start with one person to many people. Just same as movie name “pay it forward”. I see the result. You will understand what Darren say.
Let ~~ (good) Law of Attraction ~~ work for you. You will see the result.
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