Q: Hey, Darren: I’ve tried many different jobs and careers, and have a varied educational background, so I’ve given lots of different things a shot… but I’ve never really found a career path that felt “right.” How do I discover what my mission is? —Michael Werner
A: Michael, this is a great question and one I keep being asked. Having contemplated my own “mission” in life with a desire to find my purpose, I have discovered a few principles to help guide my decision-making and direction in my professional pursuits…
Principle 1. Do What You Love
When any super-successful person is asked for one tip they would give to someone seeking a rich life, it always seems to be: Do what you love. If you love what you do, you will not only be great at it, thus likely successful, but you will also never see work as work, but life itself. I, too, believe in this romantic notion of life. I don’t believe one should live a dual existence—their work life and their nonwork life. Think about it, all told you spend three-quarters of your waking hours—at least five days a week, 50 weeks a year—involved with your work. If you don’t like what you do, you are living most of your life in pain and misery. This is no way to live. To really live, spend most all your life loving what you do.
WARNING: Don’t OVER romanticize this notion. Every business, job and productive project will have its difficulties, taxing responsibilities and unpleasant aspects. Pressing on and overcoming those factors is where much of the feeling of accomplishment comes from. Yet, overall, you are exhilarated and fulfilled by your work.
Discovering what you love? Questions to consider…
If you had all the money you ever needed and had already vacationed, traveled everywhere you wanted to go and were back home with nothing to do, what would you do now? What would you do, if only for the fun and feeling of self-worth it would provide?
If you could trade professional places with anybody you know or have ever witnessed, who would it be? Why? What aspect of their job, business or job function appeals to you most? What other businesses have those same aspects?
When have you felt most alive, most accomplished and most satisfied in life? What were you doing? What about it gave you those feelings?
I have found most people already know what they love but don’t know how to translate that into a business or career, or they are too afraid to pursue it. Read 5 Tips to Reinventing Yourself to discover how.
Principle 2. Do What’s You
Two very important questions to ponder are: Who am I and, more importantly, who do I want to become? To feel spiritually and energetically exalted by your work, it will need to align with your core values, self-image and character. You might love to play poker, but hanging out in casinos and being a professional poker player might not be the full expression of Who You Are or make you more of Who You Want to Become.
Discovering Who You Are? Questions to consider…
What are your core values in life? How would you describe yourself and your character? How do you wish others would describe you and your character?
Be sure the professional path you choose aligns with those descriptions.
Recommended resource: Cultivating an Unshakable Character by Jim Rohn
Principle 3. Do What’s Easy
Your true path in life is the path of least resistance for you. If you want to discover your “mission” or your unique purpose in life, figure out what you are uniquely good at and what comes easy to you. If it’s hard for you or if you are not very good at something, that’s probably not what you were meant to do.
Here is the great challenge for most of us. We have ended up in jobs, careers or businesses OTHERS have thought best for us. Those others could be parents, teachers, counselors, peers, societal ideals, etc. Few of us have followed our own path in life, guided by our strengths. Read more about Playing to Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham. It’s time to take back control of your life and get in touch with your unique potential.
Discovering Your Strengths? Questions to consider…
What comes easy to you? What do many people have difficulty doing, but you find easy? What advice or assistance do people tend to ask you for? If you were in a line of 20 people, shoulder to shoulder, what do you probably do better than most of the 19 others? What unique skill, insight, intuition or knowledge base do you have that most don’t?
The answers to those questions will reveal your unique advantage in life, and probably what you were designed to do.
Now, go out and live the life you were meant to live! —Darren Hardy
Additional resources I recommend: Take Charge of Your Life and Leading an Inspired Life by Jim Rohn
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23 Responses
Shelley
09/Sep/2008 1Great advice! Thanks you!
Nanci Fulmek
09/Sep/2008 2This is one of the questions I get asked by my students all the time. I will forward this one on to them.
Thank You!
Tim
09/Sep/2008 3I have never understood the question (or variations on it) of “what would you do if you didn’t have to worry about money?” as advice for finding one’s calling. I guess it’s because I would stay in bed, eat junk food, and watch tv. I’ve never seen any job that had any, so who I would want to trade places with is meaningless as well. Can’t really say I’ve ever felt alive. (But then again, I’ve been diagnosed with depression for most of my adult life).
Lynn Burchard
09/Sep/2008 4Great advice and very helpful. As I read this reply from Darren, I am always amazed by the advice. Even though one may already know the answers, it is always refreshing to re-read.
Thank you
[DARREN HARDY] Thank you Lynn - appreciate the glowing comment!
Nancy Lennert
10/Sep/2008 5I totally believe that for one to be truly successful and live their life’s work, one must be in alignment with God’s plan for their life. One will find peace, clarity, a boldness, strength, a friend and decision maker, harmony, and salvation. How much better does it get then having a successful and productive life on this earth and to know that something greater is waiting for you. (www.justaskbooks.com)
Nancy
Audra
10/Sep/2008 6Inspiring! The principle around values and character was what I found most poignant, but difficult to answer. Throughout my career, I’ve found many places I was doing what was easy and fun, but none where I would ever say I really identified with the values and character of the business. Sometimes, the pressure to fit into an organization can lead to pressure for being flexible in your values (thus losing sight of what is personally important) if you want to get ahead. All that leads to the feeling of not being fulfilled, even if I am following the other principles. This was a great reminder to check back in with myself to not lose sight of those things!
Tom
10/Sep/2008 7Thanks Darren, I found my passion and lived it for 13 years as a real estate investor buying and selling houses. Legal issues, financial and lawsuits brought me to my knees. I lost everything except my wife and four young children (which is a blessing). It’s been four long years doing something I don’t enjoy the restaurant business where I get paid in one year what I could have made on a single deal.I am battling low self esteem and depression. Fear is keeping me from jumping back into what I truly loved to do. I lost two great mentors during that time, I know I still have greatness still inside, I am just having a hard time bringing it out again. Thanks for listening.
Regina
10/Sep/2008 8Someone who struggles with depression may find reading The Color Code by Dr. Taylor Hartman enlightening. We all have innate personalities and Dr. Hartman makes understanding them so clear. I have used various personality tests before, but never had such a clear understanding of not only my strengths and weaknesses, but how to address weaknesses and accept responsibility to overcome them. We can achieve the life we want!
Margarita
10/Sep/2008 9I think that also is important to make a firm determination on what you want in your life. And believe in yourself and NEVER give up.
Be happy!!!!
Rocheflume Flores
10/Sep/2008 10Doing what we love is really the best. If we really love what we’re doing, everything will turn out right. We’re not exerting too much effort in working for our goals.
Thanks Darren!
caroline porter
11/Sep/2008 11doing something that is more difficult may be a great challenge, but why not keep it easy?
Collette
12/Sep/2008 12I know the feeling. I am an RN, but decided that I really wasn’t feeling the passion for it that I should. So I stopped working for a while and focused on myself. After a while of staying at home I was presented with an opportunity in the health and wellness field that has become my passion. I never knew I had this passion, however it fell in my lap and her I am. I am currently marketing for this new company and everyday I enjoy what I do. Think about a field that you would like to work in and go from there. I knew health was what I liked, but who would have thought I would end up doing what I am???? I’m thrilled!!! Good luck!!!
Brian Mecham
15/Sep/2008 13I have experienced so much more freedom in my life from applying that advice: Do you what you love. I was working a job I didn’t enjoy… what I did enjoy was creating website… I now own my own Web Design and Internet Marketing company in Utah. I am good at it and love it.
michelle casto
17/Sep/2008 14For all of you are ready to step in to your purpose…you will need 2 thingsL
1). the right information
2.) emotional support
Every successful person knows the value of mentoring.
I love the questions Darren has posed, and encourage you to ask them of yourself and write out the answers……that is a great starting place to make a change.
In bright light,
Michelle L. Casto
The Soul Coach
John Shiomi
18/Sep/2008 15Recently, I’ve started doing the work that I am most passionate about and it has tremendously changed my life. I feel excited about life and the endless possibilities it has to offer. I think that when you follow your bliss (do the work that you love to do) something amazing awakens inside of you. It’s like it isn’t work anymore. You are not working just to pay the bills and to get by, but rather you are working from somewhere deep inside your heart, fulfilling yourself. That’s so powerful, so meaningful. It gives you so much self-esteem and self-confidence… it makes your whole life better. I think that even if you can’t do your passion full time and make a living doing it… that’s okay… keep at it and one day with a little hard work and imagination you can! According to Abraham Maslow, the highest level of living is “self-actualization”… becoming the very best that you can be. Following your bliss and doing what you love is one way to achieve this I believe.
John D. Moore
18/Sep/2008 16I have worked lots of different jobs, all blue collar work as it is all I know. I know I enjoy working with my hands though never felt I had a passion about any particular work? I have lost interest in things I used to enjoy though never diagnosed with depression I feel I have lost some of the passion of life. How do I rediscover the passions in my life? All I know is work and family. Where do I go from here? Someone please point me in the right direction!
Ann Marie
19/Sep/2008 17Thank you!!!
Wonderful advice, deep reflection. I’m in a business that allows me to truly help people and make a living at the same time. It’s been a struggle, but I can see the great light at the “opening” of the tunnel. Thank you so much for your keen insight.
akin
22/Sep/2008 18it is a good site.the lord will be your strength
Akinwumi Akinbowale
22/Sep/2008 19its a site to discover one’s purpose in life.life does not answer to existence but to purpose.
safal
01/Oct/2008 20Hi Darren,
we are from kathmandum Nepal. and we run a magazine here. so we want to take ur interview 4 our magazine. tell us how can we do so?
please reply
safal
Youth For Youth
Sparky
02/Oct/2008 21I love the ‘idea’ of doing what you love in life; however, it seems unrealistic based on one’s own responsibilities to family, bills, mortgage, etc. Not everyone can charter their way to a career that provides them total fulfillment - unless, of course, one is willing to sacrifice salary and quality of life. Otherwise, finding a career that you enjoy would be ideal. I’m still searching myself!….
Sparky
Timothy Catlett
07/Oct/2008 22Darren, thank you. That phrase may seem over rated but let me tell you it comes with a lot ,that phrase…Thank You. Your blogs seem to always be just on point, the lessons and principles that are shared are pure gold, life changing…bank changing. I’m 21 years of age but as Napolean Hill put it to Andrew Carnegy “Not only will I equal all of your achievments in Life, but I will challenge you at the post and past you at the Grand Stand”. I’m a definite student of your teachings and encouragement to personal success and development. I will be a person who passes on such wisdom to others not only from my own achievements, but by my passionate growing example.
Thank You I certainly do appreciate your LEADERSHIP,
Timothy Catlett
Raleigh, North Carolina!
Internet Marketing
31/Oct/2008 23This blog Is very informative , I am really pleased to post my comment on this blog . It helped me with ocean of knowledge so I really believe you will do much better in the future . Good job web master .
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