Don’t Let Your Kids Inherit Your Bad Financial Habits

Six Financial Mistakes You Don’t Want Your Kids to Repeat

It is not the government, Wall Street or the greedy mortgage companies that are to blame for your financial crisis. The responsibility lies only with YOU. Let’s use this experience as a learning opportunity so the “sins of the father (and/or mother)” are not repeated on your children.

1. Start Saving From Day One
We have all heard about the magic of compound interest. The magic ingredient is time. The book SUCCESS for Teens describes The Choice:

At the end of 31 days, would you choose to receive a million dollars cash or a single penny that doubles each day during that term? You would be wise to choose the penny. On the 31st day, the payment is $10,737,418.24.

This is one of the most important financial lessons you can teach your children—save a percentage of every dollar they earn. The magic of compound interest can make them magically and magnificently rich.

2. Don’t Buy Junk You Don’t Need
Retail therapy is not a medical treatment. Notice how houses that are more than 30 years old have small closets and even smaller garages? Now we have colossal closets, attics, 3-plus car garages and have created a new industry that has exploded in the past couple of decades—self-storage. This is so we can store all the needless crud we buy. Stop trying to medicate your woes by buying more stuff.

Here Are Two Financial Questions I Ask Myself Before I Buy Anything:

Do I need it or just want it? It’s good to separate need from want. You will be surprised how few fit things into need and how many are just wants.

If I want it—how badly? Is it worth 7 times what it costs? That is what a single dollar is worth invested at 10 percent return for 20 years. So if something is priced at $30, it really COSTS me $210—the actual effect on my future savings and net worth. That $149 impulse buy at Costco just cost your future more than $1,000. This understanding might help ruin your insatiable appetite for needless spending.

3. Don’t Drink From Only One River.
We live in the era of entrepreneurship. Regardless of the job or business you have, everyone should be involved in generating multiple streams of income from a variety of enterprises. The opportunities are too abundant, and it is too easy not to do so. Now you will never go thirsty if one of your rivers gets dammed.

4. Don’t Let Your House Be Bigger Than Your Wallet.
Mortgage companies use a calculation to determine if you can afford the mortgage payment, it’s called debt-to-income ratio (DTI). This is one of the numbers that became too flexible in the past few years, allowing people to get into houses they couldn’t really afford. This is also THEIR standard and doesn’t have to be yours. Just like you should eat better than the FDA recommended daily allowance, you should also have more prudence in your financial choices.

There Are Two Forms of DTI Called Front and Back Ratios.

Front ratio—The percentage of income that goes toward housing costs or PITI (PITI includes mortgage principal and interest, mortgage insurance premium—if applicable— hazard insurance premium, property taxes, and homeowners’ association dues—if applicable).

Back ratio—The percentage of income that goes toward paying all recurring debt payments, including those covered by the first DTI, and other debts such as credit card payments, car loan payments, student loan payments, child support payments, alimony payments and legal judgments.

For a conforming loan, this ratio has to be 28:36 front ratio to back ratio and is a good standard. Any more than this ratio can put you in real financial vulnerability and should not be pursued even if someone wants to give you money above this ratio.

Important Additional Tip: You should always have at least six months of monthly living expenses, including your new mortgage, in an easily liquid savings account before you make the financial plunge into a debt obligation. This single discipline can prevent 99 percent of temporary financial crises in your life.

5. Don’t Leave Your Eggs Exposed.
How many times have you heard you need to have a diversified investment portfolio? Even though that mantra has been repeated throughout our financial culture, most people have more than 90 percent invested in a single asset class—real estate, the stock market or their own business. If any of these hit tough times, now 90 percent of their financial world is in serious jeopardy (and can lead some to jump from tall buildings).

My philosophy is: Risk on yourself, your business and new opportunities, but don’t put your investment holdings at risk. Be aggressive in earning money and conservative in keeping it. Safe, diversified and long-term investments baskets are where you want to place your eggs.

6. Grow Your Money Tree.
The most important investment you can make in securing your long-term financial viability is the investment in YOU and your personal development. In these fast-moving and ever-changing times, the degree on your wall is marginalized within a few years. After graduation, learning should not only continue, but accelerate. As Jim Rohn says, “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” It will be your continual growth and development that will keep your money tree ever fruitful throughout time.

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  1. J.R. Lee says:

    Great stuff.

  2. Ms. Linda Starr says:

    Thanks Darren for this great wisdom. I wish my parents would have known this great information and passed it on to me as a child. As an adult you can always keep learning and growing. I think it is one of the greatest life skills to teach your children as they are growing into adulthood. There are no gurantees in life however with the knowledge and putting things into practice at an early stage of life, it can you put you closer to having something to count on when you are an adult.

    Linda Starr ( Still growing and learning at almost 60)
    Rancho Mirage, California

  3. Paul Mackay Jr says:

    I will talk to my 13 year old son about these. Thank you.

  4. S. Bailey says:

    Very true & right on the button

  5. Joey says:

    I wish when I was a young adult someone had told me and all my friends this great information. Too little too late, but let’s hope the next generation is a whole lot smarter and richer!

  6. Kevin says:

    #1 & #2 are saying “don’t spend more than you make.” Such a simple concept, but in this age where the message is always spend, and get what you want, it really goes against what people generally think and do. When Robert E. Lee was approached for advice from a mother who wanted to impart some wisdom for her son, Lee’s response was to have to young man learn “self-denial.” The art of delayed gratification: even through you can afford it, wait until you’ve reached some other milestone that may do something like give you another step towards financial betterment before you buy that new dadoo.

  7. Shane Morin says:

    These are principles I began learning and implementing at the age of 26, they have changed my world for the better. It’s been 14 years since watching the changes begin to take root- wow, what a difference life-long continued learning makes! The sad part is that our traditional education system (and most families) don’t provide these basics, but that is no excuse to not become better informed.

    Growing up in poverty, I was able to improve my thinking, philosophy and understanding, taking them to new levels that have positively affected every area of my life. My children are learning these concepts too and I’m excited for their futures. I’m certainly not perfect, but if I can begin the change, anyone can!

    Darren, since working with you back in the 1990′s in “The People’s Network” (TPN), I was able to learn a lot from you. Thank you for sharing!

    God bless,
    Shane Morin-

  8. Scott Schaubel says:

    It’s amazing how much good advice seems like good common sense. Then again, it’s also amazing how “uncommon” common sense is for people. The current credit crisis in the U.S. is an indication of this (say what you want, it all boils down to people wanting more then they can afford and spending more then they make. Five years ago, the average person spent 110% of their income and the percentage has gone up since then!!). Apparently, the next generation isn’t quite getting it… yet. I’ll do my part to help educate and inform them and commend you for your efforts.
    I was blessed with this advice when I was 17; from an older gentleman at a bus stop. It’s surprising that I listened, being the usual know it all 17 year old. But he put some numbers to it and wow… that impressed me. It’s been impressive as to how much following this advice has been both a safety net for me and comfort. Now, I’m working on getting the rest of my life to be as impressive as this one area :)

  9. joe says:

    Great stuff Darren , that is why I subscribed to Success Magazine. Number one is , because I don’t want my kids to have to grow up the way my family did. My dad commuted to St. Louis an hour and a half each way a day, just so we could barely make it by, and we hardly ever spent time with him, not because he had a real bad job , but because he just wasn’t very good with his finances. Number two is , because I don’t believe the philosophy that you have to live with the cards you were dealt , but that you have a choice in the matter whether to except them or change them . I try my best to live with the pay now play later mentality. Thank you for your insiring words , it shows that it something worth fighting for.

  10. Lynn Burchard says:

    Thank you Darren. My mother thought me to save so I have grown up doing the same. Now as a wife and a mother of 4 children, we are in a great financial position. I am a stay-at-home mom starting her first home-based business and loving it.

    I always love to read your articles. They are very informative and useful. I have also endeavored the Success For Teens project for the teens in my area. Just waiting for the books to arrive. My daughter’s high school is having a career day next week and I will be handing them out. If this is success which I know it will be, I will also be requesting more. Once again Thank You.

    Your dedicated reader,
    Lynn Burchard

    [DARREN HARDY] Thank you for being such a dedicated reader Lynn – appreciate it! Thanks for also supporting the SUCCESS Foundation.

  11. Mac says:

    This very salient information all of us can use.I have a radio program here in Barbados and I will share these point with my listeners. Credit will be given to you.

  12. Linda says:

    I wish I had been taught this information. I am now in a dwstitute state and trying to just keep my head above water. Treading wateris very tiring and depressing. I hope others pay heed. For me I feel it is too late

  13. Shantelle says:

    I have just sat down with my 10 year old sister(whom my father spoils very much)and explained to her the importance of this article.To my surprise she was very excited to learn about compounding interest and how it could help her money grow for her future if she saved or invested just a little percentage of her allowance every week,instead of spending it on lollies and lipgloss .She definately had an AH HA!moment that bought a smile to her face and relief to my heart.Shes now in her room happily working out her savings budjet, and shes excited to share her new financial knowledge with her dad.

    Thankyou very much

  14. GirlMogul says:

    great article – these are real tips that will help families build a strong financial foundations. I found myself nodding on each one and I thinking about ways I can improve in each area.

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