Over the next several posts, I’d like to help clear up some of the very dangerous illusions I think our current culture has created about what it takes to be successful.
Hollywood, commercialism and our own decadence has falsified our reality and is leading us into a form of self-destruction.
I interviewed the “Hit Man” David Foster this past week (He will be on the cover and interviewed on the CD of our September issue of SUCCESS).
Not familiar with the name David Foster? There is no question you are familiar with his work. David is deemed the No. 1 music producer in the world. He’s the guy who discovered Celine Dion while singing under a tent in the rain in Quebec, Canada, and introduced her to American audiences. He also discovered and produced Josh Grobin, Michael Bublé, Andrea Bocelli and tons more. He has produced numerous records under his own label and has won 15 Grammys in his four-decade career… bottom line, this is a guy who knows how to create success—over and over again. You will love the feature story on him, incredible!
During my interview I probed David repeatedly on what his secrets to success were. He had some incredibly insightful tips and philosophies which I won’t spoil here, but the recurring theme was—the guy just outworks everyone else.
Sometimes we need to be reminded of the obvious. It’s true, there is a common reality to the superachievers I have interviewed and we have featured on the cover of SUCCESS, be it Donald Trump, Dr. Oz, Colin Powell, Donny Deutsch, Suze Orman, Richard Branson, etc—they all are hardworking.
Now there are a few caveats I need to add here:
1) They LOVE what they do, so in reality, it’s not really “work.” In fact, most of them (myself included) would rather be working than laying on a beach somewhere.
David said it well, “…if I’m not working on Saturday, somebody else is. I believe that people who don’t work on the weekends are people who don’t like their job.”
2) They don’t just work to be working; they are still only spending time on high-value productivity strategies (review 12-Steps to Greater Productivity). They are advancing their dreams.
3) They do value time off (see Learning to Value Time Off post), BUT as a necessity for greater productivity, not for time-off sake’s. This is a super-important distinction. Said another way, time off is a means to the end (accomplishing their passion, dreams and ambitions), not an end or the objective itself. Get it?
Why am I compelled to write about this? Culturally, I think we have lost some of this mindset, character and discipline. Sorry to say, but especially in the younger generations—mine included.
There are several influences that I think have warped our reality and made us lose perspective. The first one I will talk about here and save the rest for subsequent entries:
I spent some time recently with an immigrant from the former Soviet republic of Uzbekistan. He told me about his experience the first time he walked into an American supermarket and saw the endless amount of food available. Then he walked into a Wal-Mart, a 99 cent store, an open-air farmer’s market and all-you-can-eat buffets in Vegas. He said it was so surreal to him he said he literally felt like he was on a different planet, in a different era. Then he told me the story of how he grew up never having enough to eat and what he went through to escape communist Uzbekistan to finally arrive in America completely penniless.
Today, he is incredibly wealthy with an incredible home near the famed Pebble Beach golf course in Carmel, California. He said becoming successful in America was easy. All he knew was working hard. He simply outworked everyone else (he is a very successful developer, started out as a simple carpenter).
This is how he explains how he did it, “Outworking Americans is easy. Everything comes too easy for Americans. They have been spoiled by their riches. They lack the hunger. I know what it is like to be hungry, that is my advantage.”
I read about this principle recently. This is a potential danger in every business and one you should watch out for.
Here is an example: A new restaurant opened up close to my home on the beach in San Diego. When they first opened, the place was always immaculate, the hostess had a big smile for everyone, the service was impeccable (the manager came over and assured it) and the food was sensational. Soon, people started lining up and the wait time was always over an hour.
Then they started to take their success for granted. The hostess became snippy, the service staff disheveled and curt, and the food was hit or miss. They were out of business in 18 months. They failed because of their success. They stopped doing what made them successful to begin with. Their success clouded their perspective to the underpinnings or the original cause of their success.
I find this reality affecting Americans but in much greater proportions because the transitions are generational. We now have two if not three generations who have only known prosperity, wealth and abundance. Our expectations of what it really takes: the grit, hard work, discipline and character to create success doesn’t exist much anymore… or, at least, it has been mostly forgotten.
This is why we are getting our butts kicked by the Chinese, the Indians and others. It’s a simple history lesson, the reality affecting America once happened to the Greeks, Romans, Spanish, Portuguese, French, English, etc. Nothing fails like success.
It’s time to restore this character. If not for the sake of saving America, at least for your own greater success and achievement.
Don’t buy into the genie in a lamp, sit on your couch and wait to attract the checks in your mailbox, rub crystals, walk on fire, channel a 2000-year-old guru, chant affirmations, ad nauseam “secret” to success. That is hocus-pocus commercialism appealing to your weaknesses, particularly laziness, entitlement, greed, something-for-nothing and the lottery mentality. That’s not the way it works.
Here is what it takes to be successful: hard work.
If you don’t believe me, ask your grandfather, or better yet, your great-grandfather.
Want to contemporize this: work hard and work smart. You will be fabulously rich.
Have a rave or rant about this post? Tell me and everyone else in the comments below.
16 Responses
Marianne
22/Jun/2009 1thank-you for remainding us to be honest. It so reminds me of my amazing grandfather.. he mostly brought me up and as an eternal mentor he reminds me even if passed away at 95 from old age simple fundamentals : he would treat every day as a new opportunity- would shave slowly, dress with nice clean clothes ‘everyday’ even to go buy bread and milk and see some friends.. he upheld his values, kept always an open mind through all the generations ( four of them ) but most of all i always felt in him that it was innate to appreciate simple things ( he told me stories of smuggling a pound of pure butter against his chest to put on old bread..) and he always work hard but to him it was simply the right thing to do at all times…
Matthew Crowe
22/Jun/2009 2Couldn’t agree more with this post Darren. I think especially in Gen Y “entitlement” has overtaken hard work, determination, and tenacity. It’s really sad for me to see so many people in my generation live off of the coattails of their parents and never earn anything for themselves. I remember when I started my first company in high school when most of my friends were out partying and screwing off, I was working my tail off and sacrificing with early mornings and late nights doing whatever it would take. When I was 19 I sold that company which brought me enough money to travel the world, buy my first home, and give me a huge head start to my next entrepreneurial endeavors. A lot of those same people that were screwing off then, are still screwing off now and I still haven’t stopped doing whatever it takes. That’s why I believe I am where I am at at 26, and most others my age would rather watch reality TV, go to the bar, and screw off planning on that their parents or society will take care of them. They should teach work ethic in school, or at a minimum parents should be accountable for their children.
[DARREN HARDY] Nicely said Bon Vivant and Renaissance Man (from your website!)!
Vanessa Michele Garcia
23/Jun/2009 3Hi Darren,
Kudos - I absolutely couldn’t agree with you more. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. I don’t know what has happened to our generation and why people take opportunities for granted. Or maybe, I do, they have been handed everything in a golden platter that the thought of hard work is merely shadowed by laziness. The example you give regarding the restaurant in your hometown is simply one of the many mistakes that many individuals do - they become lazy and stop caring. I’ve been taught that when you achieve success, you need to work as hard as if you were still working towards success, whatever that may mean to you - that includes waking up early, staying longer than necessary to get the job done, and working on the weekends to achieve the type of results that you want. Lastly, YOU must love and have passion for what your career of choice is because without that it will just be a job.
Darren, thank you so much for your insight, wisdom and being such a valuable resource for individuals that want to get ahead and make a difference.
Cheers,
Vanessa
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Lou Sartori
23/Jun/2009 5Mr. Hardy:
I couldn’t agree with you more about us Americans being spoiled by our success and neglecting “hard work.” I am a high school teacher and see the lack of hard work on a daily basis. I’m just not talking about the students either! I’m probably considered “old school” by today’s standards. I expect my students to do their work and not just get credit for showing up or trying. I want them to be accountable for their actions. There are a lot of distractions and competition facing our students today. We have “magic” formulas and professional development about the next “trend” in education. We need to get back to the basics! Our country was founded on the principles of hard work and doing an honest day’s work for an honest day’s wage. Thank you for using your forum to address an issue that has been bugging me for a long time. Also, thank you for letting me get on the soapbox and vent. Continued success!
Sincerely,
Lou Sartori
Louisville, KY
Mike Olgren
23/Jun/2009 6Darren, you hit the nail on the head! I couldn’t possibly agree with you more. I worry about America because we are indeed so lazy. So many feel entitled, and are bewildered when they don’t have luxury handed to them on a silver platter. As the comments suggest, there are others out there who know this “secret,” but are there enough to keep the country afloat?
Mike Olgren
Grand Rapids, MI
Rick VanderHoek
23/Jun/2009 7We in North America (im from Canada) have it sooooo easy. We take so much for granted. If we want something we buy it on credit or pay later programs. My grandparents had it tough (well atleast compared to us today). Up befor the sun, work all day until the sun went down, supper then bed. Repeat 6 days a week and half of Sunday, only because it was Gods day and they went to church. If they wanted something they saved up to pay cash for it. This is still a good way to buy stuff.
I have to say that I am lucky. My parents taught me good values. Work hard, love one woman, say please, thank you and your welcome, open the door for everyone, treat people how I would like to be treated, what ever you do..do it to the best of your abilities, and be honest.
Today a clent over payed me $100 for a job I did for him. I brought it to his attention, he said thank you and that he would refer me to all his friends & contractors he works with. That could mean thousand of dollars. Not a bad return for just being honest.
[DARREN HARDY] Honesty always pays… sometimes right away and sometimes in ways you don’t readily recognize, but it will always pay. Same with dishonesty, it will ALWAYS cost you. Bravo Rick!
Deborah Cardone
24/Jun/2009 8Darren, I had the pleasure of watching David Foster on PBS a couple of nights ago. It was the best concert I have ever seen and many of the stars that David has discovered over the years were there and still perfoming. It was incredible. Throughout the concert he talked about hard work and persistence and dedication. His message is as true as his music.
A side note to music lovers: David’s newest find is an adorable 16 year old Phillipino girl with more talent than I have ever seen for her age. Watch for her, she is definitely going to be a star. Her name is Charise and with David guidance I believe has a wonderful career ahead of her.
[DARREN HARDY] You can see her perform her new single here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tOUuLj7wh0 or on Oprah here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGaswgmhGyU
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Madison McGraw "Girl Arsonist"
26/Jun/2009 10#3 is a real eye opener.
I know many people that spend all their time working towards the time they will spend on vacation.
As a former paramedic, I saw first hand what it really means when they say ‘live for today - because it may be your last.’
If you’re living for all your tomorrows, then you oughta take some time to figure out how you can contribute to this world and make a living doing something that you love.
Thanks for the post. Excellent as always!
Madison
Jennifer "JenDreamBig" Pearsall
26/Jun/2009 11I hate word HARD WORK… You many think I odd and why I say that. Let me tell you what happen to me.
I own and build in network marketing business, In past when I was new and not have lot training yet. When I meet people for while to get know them, then I say to them “If you want be finance freedom then do it HARD WORK. They quick say no thanks”. AND sometime when I have few people thinking to join my business, they ask me lot question. They even say “Is that HARD WORK?” Sometime they say “wow that is HARD WORK to do that.” They did not join my business.
I don’t understand why… So I went to my leader and ask for advise. My leader say that many people look for easy life ex: easy cook, driving car than walk, easy business, easy cash, ect.. anything they look for easy life not hard work.
Leader say that we have to be careful what we talk with people with word HARD WORK. It will fear them out. Some people will say that is HARD WORK, we have to change their mind set to new thinking set. So leader say try use word SMART WORK or SMART WAY or DOING IN SMART WAY not HARD WORK. They will feel and think different view of word to say.
So I take leader’s advise. When I see people say “that is HARD WORK thing to do” I told them to look at SMART WORK not HARD WORK. I see their respond to me in different and good tone. I see big different. We have to be careful what we say to people.
Back to your blog, I total understand what you and David talk about. Yes many people lost their business because they don’t want doing in HARD WORK. Ouch… no BIG BANK in their account. If they really want have BIG BANK then doing in SMART WORK and it will have to be HARD WORKING to get their bank become BIG BANK.
Their mind set are different than our mind.
People that doing in SMART and HARD WORK they will have high change to stay in business and become success. They will get what they want.
Good blog!
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Omar
07/Jul/2009 13Great article.
Ron
12/Jul/2009 14I am shocked when I see the attitude of college students and young people (Twenty something). I recently places an ad for a part time job that pays $15-$40/hr. I got over 60 people responding to my ad. However, many of them did not answer their cell or returned my call. Some did not show up for their scheduled interview. I had even one kid who wanted me to hire him over the phone because it was too much for him to drive 25 minutes for an interview and hung up the phone on me. It seems a lot of them rather stay home and feed off their parents instead of getting a job. Although our nation is the status of an economic crisis, I could not believe how lazy, disrespectful, and self indulged (Generation Y) is.
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Imae'
12/Aug/2009 16Your piece on “Hard Work” is the sad truth. I was raised abroad my entire youth, and we are the laziest culture I have ever witnessed. The best years of my life thus far have been my hardest working years. No boredom, no time to be a sloth. Continue bringing that message home. It is needed now more than ever. As Americans we should strive to be our best and help others. Hard Work is mentally and physically uplifting and promotes our own salvation.
Thank you.
Imae’
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