Abraham Lincoln made a difference that changed the world forever, but so did Hitler. Both men are equally remembered, but for which problems do you want to be remembered? The ones you solved or the ones you created?
In our November issue of SUCCESS (on newsstands now!), we are discussing the theme Making a Difference. You don’t have to make a global impact in order to be remembered for making a difference. I also don’t believe making a difference is something you do only when you reach the top of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs pyramid, or when you volunteer at the local soup kitchen or write your check to public television.
I believe you are always making a difference, every day and in every moment. As soon as you walk out your front door, you become the cause of a series of ripple effects that will forever affect the direction and experience of much of the rest of the world. And your impact will be problem-solving or problem-creating.
Think about a former boss, colleague, college roommate, old neighbor, past love relationship, childhood friend, previous business partner, high-school math teacher, etc. Each person either solved problems or created them for you. They either helped you and improved you or caused you grief and brought you down. Now get on the other side of that list: How does each of these people remember you? For the problems you solved for them or the ones you created?
With every door you hold open, car you allow to merge, smile you flash, encouragement you offer, you are making a deposit into someone’s life. The best part of this form of giving is that your ability to give is limitless, and in the end, the feeling of fulfillment you get makes you the greatest recipient.
In my interview with Joel Osteen (on the CD inside the issue), Joel said it beautifully when he said, “The key to becoming blessed is not to think about your blessing, but how you can be a blessing to someone else. In that act you will find your blessing.”
Read about companies like TOMS Shoes (page 34) and the Acumen Fund (page 28) that are founded on giving back, and learn some tips for making a difference with your own business no matter the size (page 46).
You don’t have to be a president or a tyrant to make a difference in the world. For all the people you touch every day, you make an indelible difference in their world.
I encourage you to set a goal each day: How many blessings can you dispense? How many worlds can you make a positive difference in? The world most affected by this giving will be yours.
Challenge: What one thing will you do to make a difference in someone’s life in the next 3 days. Just one thing, anything… come on just try it! Tell us in the comment section below what you intend to do.
15 Responses
Mernela
06/Oct/2009 1I believe in the power of believing, the self power and of course the power our thoughts to become who we are and be who we want to be.
The sense of life is making a difference in the world with every heart we touch and every act we perform in order to help and service others. Receiving a smile from a lonely person or a “Thank you from a hungry /homeless child” is unvaluable in love, However, in order to make a difference in others life , first you have to make the DIFFERENCE IN YOUR OWN LIFE and be the model, walk the talk ! and with your experience help others change their life.
Blessings
Mernela
Author “Decide now! and take control of your destiny “
Gaylene
06/Oct/2009 2I try to do something each day for someone else…it is easy for me because I am a mom and I also work at a retirement center, so helping people is part of my job. What I try to do is look for extra things to do outside of what I do as part of my job. When the older kids come home, I try to make their favorite meal. When I am at work, I try to take time to visit each patient and ask about their day and what they want to accomplish tomorrow…just small talk, nothing big, but like Joel said, I try not to let the big parts of my job get in the way of making each person feel special. If I were to pick one thing that I will do in the next three days, it would be to compliment my husband more. He does so much for us and we rarely tell him how much we appreciate it. I want my kids to hear me do this so that they will remember what a great dad they have.
[DARREN HARDY] I’m sure your husband will appreciate the compliments (especially in earshot of the kids) and sincerely hope he reciprocates, Gaylene! Sounds like you are a very devoted wife and mother and they are extremely fortunate to have you in their lives. Thanks for sharing and brightening my day!
Lila Young
06/Oct/2009 3Well said, Darren, i couldnt agree with you more! I discovered your web page at the suggustion of
a friend, someone who has made a huge difference in my life. I’ve always said its the small
yet thoughtful things we say and do for one another, friend or stranger, that make us the person
we truly are. As human beings we want to love and be loved back. A quote from Charles Stanleys
Living in the Power of the Holy Spirit…*Thats why God places His witnesses into every sector of
society and in every type of circimstance and situation. Every believer is called by God to be a
wittness for Him in the workplace which He has placed him or her….He speaks through us and
through our actions to peopole we don’t even know we are influencing for Him. *
It’s not always easy to be the model that we wish to be in someones life, but with His help,
hopefully we can make a difference.
James Dorsey
06/Oct/2009 4I work for the Department of Family and Childrens Services so I have many opportunities to make a difference in people’s lives. Not only children and families, but co-workers as well. Sometimes, it just hello and good morning and sometimes it’s just a smile, but I look for opportunies to do a good deed or to be a blessing. I love it! Since I love the Lord first, it makes everything else that I do that much easier. I tell every child that he or she are winners and that they are champions and that one day they are going to do something great. I try to speak life into them regardless of their circumstances. Furthermore, I ask them what they want to be and I tell them not to let anybody talk them out of their dreams. I tell them that their current circumstances is not their destiny. If I get a chance or if the opportunity presents itself, I tell them to believe in themselves and to have faith in God. Of greatest significance, I tell fathers that the greatest thing that they can do is to love their children and to put their needs (needs of the child)before their own needs. Lastly, I encourage them to to tell their children every chance they get, that they love them regardless of the circumstances.
[DARREN HARDY] James, what a wonderful and important job you have. Thank you for making a difference EVERY DAY in the lives of children and families during the most difficult of times. Kudos!
Gabriel
07/Oct/2009 5I will make somebody laugh and put hope in his/her life both spiritually and physically
arubayi efe
07/Oct/2009 6hello joel l want to thank you for your words of encouragment l read everyday the words enpower me so much and encourage me so much,and l want you to pray with me for GOD widows everyblessed day in my life. thanks and GOD BLESS from ARUBAYI EFE.
Sean Melvin
07/Oct/2009 7Everyboby can be great because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love! True success is not about getting paid, its about paying it forward!
Kristi
10/Oct/2009 8Thank you for your passion and connecting us with the wisdom of such amazing leaders of our world. My goal for the next 3 days, and beyond, is to teach my 10 year old son the power behind how we make people feel. He is a VERY nice boy and a good friend to many but still finds himself occasionally saying something that puts someone else down (usually unintentionally) to bring himself up. I want him to really understand that cultivating relationships with his friends and later co-workers/spouse/his own children, really comes down to how what we say and do makes someone feel. And it’s how they feel that either promotes a feeling of worthiness or unworthiness. I know we can’t MAKE anyone feel anything - that is within their own power yet when we lift someone up, it helps them see that in themselves. As I say this, my intention is to make sure that I make at least one person every day feel their worthiness. Hope that makes sense.
[DARREN HARDY] Kristi, this makes perfect sense. Good will starts at home and teaching your son such a valuable lesson is sure to help him throughout his life. By not only telling him but SHOWING him, he will more easily learn by your example. Great job, Mom!
Vanessa Michele Garcia
11/Oct/2009 9I couldn’t agree with you more. The statement you wrote sums it up perfectly, “I believe you are always making a difference, every day and in every moment.” Yes, every day we make a choices that define us, take us to the next level and allow us to blossom. I’m a huge advocate of helping other’s when I can and if I have the right resources in place.
This week I will be holding a workshop for a small group of unemployed workers in my community to help and coach them with job search techniques, networking, dressing for success and resume writing skills. There are so many things that I would love to do to make a difference but I know that I need to be realistic of what I can and can’t do.
By the way, the November issue of SUCCESS Magazine is by far my all-time favorite issue.
Paul Copcutt - Square Peg
13/Oct/2009 10Darren
Thanks for the re-inspiration to get involved in something again in terms of giving back. Business had been so busy that I lost sight this year of being actively involved in something that makes a difference. This article was especially timely. \
It got me thinking last Tuesday, and by the end of the day I had a new blog launched - http://www.justmytooniesworth.com , first announcement out to over 2500 people and responses back saying my ‘toonies’ worth of advice was timely and worth every penny!
The inspiration continued to build and I have now sent out my second ‘toonies worth’ and donations have started to come in and many more positive comments. I have also added the #JMTW to Twitter and that is opening up the message to more people.
Thanks again for the reminder and a great magazine
Wishing YOU continued SUCCESS!
Damien Balderrama
14/Oct/2009 11Darren,
I love your distinction on being known for the problems we create, and the problems we solve.
And after listening to the SUCCESS CD many times over, and contemplating this issue. I’ve come to see that there is a third part to this issue.
It being that, we are also known for the problems we prevent. Isn’t that what you do at SUCCESS MAGAZINE, as well as the whole personal development industry “preventitive maintenance” so to speak.
I just love what you and your Mastermind Team are doing there at SUCCESS. It was truly the single thing, that pulled me out of the deepest, darkest, hole, I’ve ever been in.
Thank You so much, I owe my life to SUCCESS MAGAZINE.
Truly Your’s
Damien Balderrama
Connie Langham
14/Oct/2009 12Thank you for the Wisdom Key and the reminder to not get weary in well doing. I will sow Honor into each person that I come in contact with. I will strive to be remembered for the problems I solve and not for the ones I create. Today I choose Blessings. Thank you for staying strong in the Lord today and always. May God richly Bless You and all that you do in Jesus Name.
JB
29/Oct/2009 13will in the search for success..i found out that it is in serving other people…and giving or sharing something what you have..in three days .. i want to make a difference in myself for they are looking at me… keep smiling and moving forward though odds are crushing me…..this site gives me more hope….i found this when one time i was looking for something to read to boost myself and i searching for success, what it takes to be success…i don’t have much to buy a book so i decided to go to a book sale store but still the price are high..but still i search for something, i don’t know why but something pushes me to look to the old magazine on the bargain table and i found a SUCCESS magazine where about legal network marketing was featured and came across Robert Kiyosaki and Donald Trump about network marketing advantage, luckily the magazine cost only for 2 dollars so i bought it.. and read it..and found a lot of food for thought and wisdom..and join a MLM Business here in the Philippines (Alliance in Motion Global)
though as to my present state i’m still climbing the mountain of success and its hard and difficult but i believe with the help of other people hand in hand I can make it to the top and share it also to others as Gods Will..tangible or intangible might it be…
Debbie Garr
04/Nov/2009 14Love your blog and the CD’s and books I receive every month through my SUCCESS magazine subscription! I am going to tell my husband of 38 years why he is so special to me. I am a giving person and sometimes so much so that it takes time away from my family, who mean the most to me.
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