Part 7: GIVE what you WANT
Review: INTRO, GETTING READY & PARTS 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6
On your journey to achieving your goals, this one shift in your mindset can radically change how the world around you responds to and receives you.
The process of goal-setting can make you very myopic and ‘ME’-focused. If we really want to get what we want, we have to remember one of the oldest success principles: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Or as Zig Ziglar puts it: “You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.”
What if that is true?
What if you knew for sure that everything you gave you would receive back tenfold? How much would you give? What would you give? How fast would you give it?
What do you want? What attributes do you need to accomplish your goals?
Do you need more courage? Who can you encourage?
Do you need more strength? Who can you help strengthen?
Do you need more belief? Who can you believe in?
Do you need more confidence? Who can you instill confidence in?
Do you need more love? Who can you love?
In the last installment we discovered what you needed to become to accomplish your extraordinary and ambitious goals. You might have looked back at the list and thought, But how? How can I be more confident, more courageous, bolder, happier, more positive, stronger… if I don’t feel that way?
This is how: Give what you need, give what you want. What you give to others, you give to yourself. And the added bonus is somehow it multiplies itself back to you.
I once had an employee we’ll call Suze. During a review it was identified that she lacked the self-confidence necessary for her to adequately perform her job responsibilities. I could have told her all the positive attributes she had and what I admired about her to boost her self-esteem (I did that anyway), but I knew that wouldn’t work. Others had probably tried before. I knew she needed to give what she was lacking to someone else in order to experience the transformation.
I asked Suze whom she knew who also suffered from a lack of self-confidence. The only person she could think of was a girl who lived a few doors down from her (let’s call her “Mia”). I asked Suze to spend time with the girl and see if she could help her improve her self-esteem. After talking with Mia about her interests and how she spent her time, Suze learned the young girl played soccer, but was too timid to excel at it. Suze was a former all-state soccer player in school and committed herself to tutoring the girl in the sport a few evenings a week.
Suze not only spent time coaching Mia in soccer, but she also talked with her about other aspects of her life. As a result, the Mia’s soccer performance improved dramatically, and her self-esteem was significantly boosted because of the interest Suze showed in her life. Witnessing this transformation, Suze felt valued, important and saw the difference she could make in another person’s life. Her own self-esteem expanded in spectacular fashion. She became one of my most successful public relations agents and went on to many other successes.
In the download documents, I want you to decide what key attributes you need to accomplish your big, hairy and audacious goals; then figure out how you can go about giving that very thing away to others.
When you look at the world with an eye toward how you can give, instead of simply focusing on what you can get, the thing you desire will beat a path to your door.
“Giving starts the receiving process.” —Jim Rohn
Download and complete the GIVE TO GET Worksheets (Download 7). (NOTE: We’ve made the worksheets accessible in one online archive. Only those subscribed to DarrenHardy.success.com will receive a link and password to the archive via the e-mail feed. If you are just registering now, the link and password will go out again with the next feed. E-mail feeds typically go out the same evening following the published post.)
If someone is looking for help in an area, or if someone is willing to offer their help, you can announce that in the comment section below. I want this to be a forum where you can dialogue with each other and support each other. Please post only sincere commitments to serve and give, and not agenda-driven solicitations. They will be deleted.
Now we have all the pieces to the puzzle and a clear view of what the end picture is supposed to look like. The next installment focuses on the development of the plan of action—the step-by-step process of doing and achieving all that we have laid out thus far.
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As always Darren many thanks for your insight and presenting this opportunity presented to me and the world!
Looking forward to 8pm CST when the next worksheet hits my inbox!
To our greater SUCCESS,
Jeffrey Neubauer
♥Service-Peace-Love-Equality-Compassion-Laughter-Hope♥
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One of the areas that I have had the most trouble with is being consistent in my efforts and routines. I can do well for a short period of time, but then become bored with doing the same thing over and over, at that time I typically start to self-sabotage by procrastinating so that I am behind and have some pressure to perform. If anyone can offer advice on how to overcome or maybe it’s something you are experiencing as well and we can work through it together. It will be greatly appreciated. I am committed to overcoming this change and making the next 10 years the best yet.
[DARREN HARDY] Best way Shane is to track your key disciplines so you can see (and appreciate) your small victories… then celebrate big – small victories, big celebrations. At the end of the week, how can you celebrate a week of consistent discipline? Get others involved, find a peak performance partner, etc. I will cover some of these concepts in future installments… stand by!
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Cannot wait to get the worksheets for the next installment into my hot little hands.
Giving is such a vital part of life, and an area where I have fallen woefully short in the past. Yes I have been selfish guy, of that there is no doubt. But, I believe that my weaknesses are often times just strengths waiting to be developed. How awesome is that? As selfish and self-centered as I have been in the past, I can be equally generous and selfless in the future.
This is the specific area where a great many of my goals reside, and where I am choosing to devote much of my energy as I move forward, so I am really excited about diving into this next assignment.
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Hi Darren! I am totally enjoying this series. I am a couple of sheets behind but working to get caught up tonight. In response to your message on people willing to help, I would love to extend an invitation to all the women (sorry guys) to become a part of the ministry that I lead called God’s Uttermost Woman. The website is http://www.uttermostwoman.com and we have a fanpage on Facebook as well. The ministry has been in existence since 2007. If any woman wants to grow in their individual faith journey, this Christian empowerment ministry is for you. I have a heart for seeing woman become all that God intended for them to be after living a defeated life myself for far too long. Now, I want to share all that I’ve been given with women who are looking to go to the next level, live life on purpose and defeat destructive behaviors. I believe in “lifting as we climb”. God bless!
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I have been a goal setter for years with mixed results, so the lesson on what we have to become to reach our goals was a real eye-opener for me. I had never considered that in such detail before. Needless to say, I had some “Eureka” moments. By combining the lessons here with what I have learned from your previous series, “Workaholics Anonymous,” I am absolutely certain that I am heading for a banner year. I cannot thank you enough for sharing this information.
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Please let me know how I can get the downloads and sign up for these sessions.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Help is on the way!
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Finally I think I am beginning to learn what life is all about. OTHERS! I don’t think I have ever been happier than taking the focus off my self and offering encouragement and motivation to others. To see them encouraged and helped has helped to create a self confidence within, a challenge that I have dealt with all my life. The more I give to others, whether it’s time, money, etc., the more I can see myself growing and developing a new confidence within.
Thanks for this article as it confirms the way to happiness!!
[DARREN HARDY] Awesome realization, Nelda! Thanks for sharing it with us!!!
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This is an interesting concept. I’ve known the Scripture quoted but never quite thought about it in that way. Looking forward to getting the download tonight to look more into this. Thanks for giving us this opportunity to grow!
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First I’ll leave a question then I will offer my help in someone here would want it.
Question: One of the 3 main goals I narrowed down to is to give a specific amount of money to my church this year and over the next 10 years. In order to achieve these goals I will have to substantially increase my income which this process is going to do no doubt. Is it correct to call that a goal? Or si something coming out in the exercise tonight that will cover that?
My offer to anyone who would want it: If anyone has a goal of losing weight or building muscle I have been doing a program for the past 120 days that has been amazing for me. It is basic and boring (as far as the diet goes) and very challenging workouts. But it has worked very well and can all be done at home.
I’m not going to sell you a product just tell you what I did. Let me know.
To everyone’s success.
Doug
[DARREN HARDY] Yes! And that is a great goal with great motivation behind it.
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Over the last few years I’ve read tons of self help books on success, goal setting, etc and they’ve definitely helped but I can sense that this program is gonna be “it.” Thus far it’s incredibly thought out, organized and most importantly, efficient. I’m truly grateful and gotta thank Darren for that. Personally, the timing couldn’t be better as I recently sold most of my belongings and moved from the east coast to LA in order to pursue my dream as a fine artist–a VERY challenging line of work to say the least. I’m wondering if affirmations will be covered in future installments? I’m a big believer in them along with meditation and visualization as they were instrumental in finally getting me to California, a dream I’ve had since childhood (I’m in my late 30s). I wish all of you the best and know this is gonna be huge for Success Magazine by this time next year. There’s not doubt I’ll be renewing my subscription.
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I have great difficulty calling people on the phone, customers when I had my gardening business and others, especially when I think I will be interrupting them, bothering them or having to ask them for something. I especially have the problem when I think there will be even the slightest chance of negative confrontation. I will procrastinate calling the person until I feel really bad about myself and worse about calling them.
If anyone has any suggestions on what I can do to get over this I would appreciate it. Thanks!
[DARREN HARDY] Tracy, I’ve been asked this question a thousand times or more and my answer is always the same: Nietzsche said, “Do the thing and you will have the power”. The power will be gained by doing. Take action, then more action, then more and more and more… and eventually you will get better and better and… the confidence will build and you will be what you want. Thinking idly will not. Go DO… that is my best advice. Don’t over think it, just do it.
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Woooow! What a great story! Very inspiring!
For many years I was eager to learn, to change my life, to find courage. I attended many workshops, read books, listened to CD, worked hard. The one thing I was very afraid of was to get involved, and give time away, I also felt I had nothing interesting to give or share. Just like the Dead Sea I received (I even compare myself to vampire of learning, ‘sucking’ someone I admired knowledge!) but couldn’t give. And then I began to feel miserable. I couldn’t get it, I had all these wonderful motivational speakers, I nearly knew the CD by heart!
I quite my job, sold my furniture and arrived in Santa Fe, with only one thing in mind: having my own company and giving back. I created a non profit organization, against all ‘good advisers’ and create a whole community around it. I received so much! I thought I was giving, but yes the more I gave the more I received, and it continue to pour in my life today! I feel bless and so thankful.
Last year I decided it was time to create my own ‘profitable’ company this time. And although I do encounter many challenges, it’s been extremely rewarding. I witnessed changes and powerful connection. And each time I come back from being with clients, I am full of energy, motivate, thrill, grateful. They are the ones who give me the most!
Thank you Darren for giving so much and Sharing!
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Hi Tracy, what’s happening is that you’re anticipating a negative outcome which leads to fear, procrastination, etc. One way to get over it is to practice visualizing the desired out come down to the last detail. It’s all about replacing negative thoughts with positive ones because the mind can’t think two things at once. Also, positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative ones. With my business, I’ve found that approaching my calls with a mindset of “service” helps a great deal. Calling and asking how I can help is a lot easier than asking for something. It takes practice but soon enough the fear will decrease through repetition.
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I am in the process of creating a mastermind group in my area (Santa Fe, NM) with a friend, I already put many ideas down for this group to empower every member.
But I’d love to have some help/guidance to ensure this will be at the best benefit of all the members. I guess I need help on leadership?
I do need courage, so if I can help someone to be courageous, please let me know.
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Great Advice Rich to Tracy!
Yes Tracy you certainly have so much to offer. My advice would be never delay or procrastinate, Jump in the water, with a mindset of service, as Rich said. Take a deep breath before calling, “Feel the fear…and do it anyway” – From Susan Jeffers (book)
Be bold! You might be surprise at the great outcome!
The more difficulty or fear you have to call, the fastest you need to get action. So this doesn’t drain you and you won’t feel guilty, you will be proud and get more and more courage, and ready to move forward! Next call!
Have you call someone yet! do it now! Jump! and Enjoy.
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Tracy, Jeffrey Gitomer, who I found out about through Success, is a master in this area. Look him up on this Success site and I’m sure his videos on here will help you. He is Da Man, next to Darren of course
[DARREN HARDY] Great advice, April! You can find more about Jeffrey Gitomer and read some of his articles here: http://www.successmagazine.com/expert?authorId=45
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This series has been AWESOME. Thanks again Darren for offering this class. It has opened my eyes to many new things. I am so glad that the next topic is about helping others. I feel that my strengths are in helping others. The feeling that you get is amazing. Prior to Christmas I was not in the right frame of mind, after reading an article about the need for the food pantry, I went to work. I was able to buy the food pantry much needed food for very little money by using my other strength saving money. It was an incredible feeling to be able to go to the pantry with 20 plus bags of food and know that I was helping someone else. This act alone turned my frame of mind around. I was grateful to be able to help. It is sometimes easier to help others than to help yourself. But it definitely takes the focus off of you but in the end it ends up helping you.
Darren thanks again and I can’t wait to get my email to see the gift that you are giving us tonight.
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Darren
This is a wonderful program. I like to print the explanations of each part; I have Part 1 through Part 4. I have not been able to print Parts 5, 6 or 7; I’m not sure why I can’t get those to print.
Thanks.
Elaine
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Elaine! I’ll be in touch very soon so we can hopefully get this figured out for you.
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I clicked the link FROM MY EMAIL but there no archive of worksheets on the site. Instead I get an error message on the pages says “Not Found. Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.”
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Crystal! We are aware of the error and are working on it. Stay tuned and we’ll keep you posted here! Thanks!
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This reminds me of “The Go Giver” by Bo Bugh. He shares the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success. I’m looking forward to completing this installment!
Thanks so much for sharing and building positive momentum towards action!
Asia
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I got the same message as Crystal when I clicked on the link, “Not Found. Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.”
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Anxious to continue with this process (Part 7 Give what you want) — but having technical problems.
All the previous emails prior to January 26, had the link: CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD WORKSHEET X (X being 1 to 6) in the body of the email. Today’s (January 26) email did not have the link to get worksheet 7 — and this webpage (at the top) also does not have the link for worksheet 7.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Deborah, yes, all the previous emails had a direct link to each worksheet. This week we decided it would be easier to have one central location for you to log into to download the worksheets…only we seem to be having technical difficulties. But we’re on it so stay tuned and we’ll keep you posted!
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I got the same message “Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.”
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Hi Darren
I received the seventh installment email and noted the link to the online archive of worksheets. When I clicked on the link, there were no worksheets available.
Thanks for your help and this series!
Looking forward to Worksheet 7.
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Darren,
Enjoying the series but couldn’t download worksheet 7
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You can find the worksheet at this link: http://www.success.com/pdf/DB10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
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Darren – First, thanks for sharing this with all of us. It is really life-changing.
Second, on Jan 19, comment was posted referring to “The Eight Levels of Charity” by Maimonides. I have tried to find it in the archives, but have not been successful (yet). Could you direct me to the correct location. Seems it would be really timely in the “Giving” portion of this part. Thank you. Charlotte
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Hi–am not able to access the online worksheet for Part 7–message I get says not found. Any suggestions?
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Darren,this whole procss is blowing me away. I am way behind on assignments due to a nasty flu bug…but nothing will stop me now!! Thank You So Much!
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Hi Darren, I am loving the course, but in this e-mail, the link to download the worksheet #7 is not availalbe on the website. How else can I get access to the worksheet? I also went into the archive and it has worksheets 1 through 6
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I click on the online archive, but it says nothing is there, is there a trick to this?
I have so appreciated all the worksheets, I have discovered so much about myself and am so excited for the Best 10 years!!!
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If you go to worksheet #6 from your previous e-mail, look at the web address and change the 6 to a 7 and refresh you can get the new worksheet.
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Thank you so much for this valuable information. I am working on the worksheets and have seen things that are helping me to balance my life. I really think that what you said about balance is so true. I can be really good in one area and than procrastinate in other areas of my life because I don’t do them as well or don’t enjoy them as much. I need to be more balanced in all areas. All of these excercises really help to see the whole picture.
I also could not download the worksheet for #7. I am looking forward to getting it soon.
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When I go to the archives to print worksheet 7, I get this message:
Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
I’ve not had any problems until tonight.
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Thank you Brett! That worked!
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Hey Brett – You are awesome – That totally worked!
Darren – Seriously, this is the BEST program I have ever experienced. Although I’m still waiting on some feedback for the SWOT, I pushed forward without all the info and I’m all caught up. I feel empowered to be the person I always wanted to be! Look out world!!!!
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Thx Brett,
I did the suggestion and was able to get worksheet 7. Just want to verify that is was only 1 page this installment.
Tamra
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Thanks Brett, worked like a charm- is it really only 1 page long or did I miss something by tricking it?
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I only found the one page as well.
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Hey Brett, thanks for the info, its works, at least know we know the secret.
Darren, thanks I work for Qualcomm in SD and would like to extend an invite for lunch if you have the time, DVD
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Hi Brett,
I just signed up for the program so I do not have the previous email link. Do you know of another way to access it, or can you put the link up on the comment board so I can access it. Much appreciated. Thanks
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This is the first time that I cannot access the download. I went to the archives and and got an error message saying what I wanted was not there…How do I download #7″
Thanks!
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I tied posting the url the first time but apparetnly other people were not able to see it. Here it is again, hope it shows up this time.
http://www.success.com/pdf/DB10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
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Thanks Brett!
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When I click the link to get #7 worksheets, it says nothing found on a blank window. Help! Thanks.
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Hi Darren Hardy,
Firstly, like to thank you for your genorosity in sharing all these knowledge and materials.
Just got issues in accessing the Worksheet.
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Darren- I am really enjoying getting to the bottom of what makes me the person I am. All of your worksheets so far have uncovered new and interesting aspects of myself I thought were long gone or non-existent. I really was looking ofrward to today’s worksheet. Imagine my surprise to find nothing available! The link takes me to nowhere, and I really have spent plenty of time there. Please help.
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Thanks Brett, it seems to work for everyone else. I got the PDF Download pop up right away, can’t have the link on my browser.
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I can’t access download # 7. Can anyone help???
THX!!!
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Often I struggle with not consistently doing the things I know I need to do to achieve the level of success I want. When I think back to the times that I have been more consistent I realized it was due to a couple of things. Firstly, I would write out each day what I needed to accomplish- identifying the top 3-5 things. I tend to do a even better job if I indicate specifically when I will I do it. For example, make customer calls between 1-2 pm; edit reports between 2-3 pm, etc. This helps to keep me on track as I tend to loose track of time or get distracted and start doing something else.
The second thing I have found helpful is “huddling”. Huddling involves you partnering with someone and the two of you determining daily, weekly or as often as you pre-determine to review what you each need to accomplish over a specified period of time. At the end of that time you review what has been accomplished. If you did not accomplish all that you had agreed to, you determine what the obstacles were and how they could/can be overcome. I find I do a better job when I am held accountable. It also feels good to know that there is someone else interested in your success and you in theirs.
Anybody want to huddle?
[DARREN HARDY] Great advice, Diamond! Thanks so much for sharing these words of wisdom with everyone here.
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What can I say that most haven’t already?
Thanks Brett!
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Tracy, Great advice above from Rich, Nathalie and April. To expand on that I would like to add for you to change your perspective before each call. Seems to me coming from a place of fear and lack of self esteem. Know that you business provides valuable services and benefits to your customers. They want and need to hear from you. As one of my favorites Wayne Dyer says “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”
Darren, You are living proof of today’s lesson! Words can not describe how thankful I am for all that you do!
John
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Good evening! I have been thoroughly enjoying this process as this has enabled to get back on track with my goals and I am excited what my journey will bring me as I know some big changes WILL be happening in my life as my son goes off to college in 7 years. However, I was not able to get to the link and put the password and instead got a blank page with this message
Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
I have tried this several times and so I don’t fall behind can you tell me what to do?
Thanks and thank you for leading this journey for us….
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I got this on my link for #7 worksheets…..
Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
It was the correct page It even had your pic Darren, I have not had any problems in the past
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HOW TO FIND WORKSHEET #7: See comment #32
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Does anyone have the link that Brett is referring to that will access the worksheet #7?
I joined the program this week and therefore I do not have the previous e-mail that Brett is referring to.
Thanks
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I was finally able to get to the link and I used the following link based on a previous comment to change it to a change but the thing is that my link was too fast so I had to keep clicking till I could read the actual link. Go to
http://www.success.com/pdf/db10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
Good luck and it was only 1 page but that is more than enough because you have to work on 3 things and potentially find 3 different mentees….
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Melanie – I tried to post the link twice but I get the message “Your comment is awaiting moderation. ” So apparently no one else can see it. Try this, only actually type the directions in parenthesis:
success(dot)com(forward slash)pdf(forward slash)DB10(underscore)worksheet(underscore)set(underscore)7(dot)pdf
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I got 1 worksheet Brett. Thank you I will read backwards again and see if that was all this time
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Thank you Brett and Nadine, these both worked for me.
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Hello Darren,
Great stuff so far but I can not access Part 7. When I click on it- it says item not found. Help, I’ve been doing every one and don’t want to stop now.
Thank you,
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Same for me… I can’t access the worksheets and got the not found message.
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Wow! this is amazing to see all the comments! I guess this is exactly what it is about!
It is certainly no chance or Accident that this download didn’t work!
Helping each other to grow!
Thks for you comment #56 Brett I have been able to get it!
What a wonderful support team you all made! and in such a short time! thanks.
[DARREN HARDY] Nice to see someone have a positive experience from a “challenging” situation! And what would you say if I claimed to have planned this little error? Well, I didn’t but sure glad some good has come from it!
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For Nathalie Bonnard-Grenet and anyone else who relates no to a negative experience. O.K. to everyone including me!! There is a book out recently called “Go for NO” authors Fenton & Waltz. It looks at NO as the means to getting everything you want from life. It addresses why we perceive no as negative and helps us to reprogram our false beliefs about NO. Fear after all is only False Expectations Appearing Real. Hope that is helpful. G.
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Nadine’s link worked… Thankss a lot!
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Hey Darren,
Thanks again for putting this together!! Can’t wait for the next worksheets! This has been a great and eye opening experience thus far.
Thank you,
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Nathalie, I love your comment! I came on here to see if anyone else was having trouble accessing the worksheets too. Looks like everyone is having the same problem as I am. Hopefully the link will work soon.
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I am offering to partner with other peak performers who are seriously committed to their BHAG. The area that I will help encourage is being consistent in our efforts and routines and monitor and measure results on a consistent basis by staying focused.
Theses performers will have no quit and would love to be held accountable and together we go in the development of the plan into action and make this “crunch time” so lets give each other courage, strength and belief and make a powerful change for the best years ahead.
Moe
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Charlotte,
If you put “Eight Levels of Charity” in Dogpile, it pulls up a Jewish Web site (look for the one that has a .org extension) that gives the list. Apparently, it is a Jewish teaching.
Hope that helps!
[DARREN HARDY] Thanks for the help, Polly!
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Nathalie,
I have your exact same problem and have procrastinated to do somehting that is vital for my business. I feel very good communicating through e-mails, but I find the way not to call people for the same reasons you do. I have tried some times to overcome the feeling and it feels good when you can, but it’s very difficult to be consistent as we need. I don’t know how to help you, but I know we need to get out of our comfort zone.
I’m very thankful for this opportunity and for the many contributions to this great purpose: to plan as never before our life and have a clear idea of where are we going.
Thanks Darren for your precious “giving” and thanks to all
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Moe,
I like your idea! I need all those qualities. How do we do it? I haven’t finished yet my exercises, but planning to finish between tonight and tomorrow.
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It sounds like Shane is telling my story. I get so excited when I am encouraging others to accompolish their dreams and goals. This have been my strengths through out my life. I just get stuck when it comes to encouraging me. My thoughts tend to wonder after a while. I am learning to become the type of person I want to attrack. Success Magazine have been amazing, still one on one support would help even more. I put procrastination in my past. It’s just not back far enough. If I was working with someone who had my issues, I would suggest a daily shcedule and have them check off the things they have accompolished at the end of each day, rewrite the unfinish things on the schedule for the next day. Why can’t I follow through with my own advice? I am tired of leading from behind. I too could use a partner. Ten years from now, I would like to look back and say to my self, “Job well done.” I AM COMMITTED to the next ten yrs the very best!
[DARREN HARDY] I am sure you are not alone on this one, Yvonne! You are already taking a huge step toward your next ten years by keeping with this program so kudos to you! STAY committed and you most definitely will make the next ten years your very best!
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Thanks Daren for this reminder of not being me focused. Doing for others actually make me happier and and bouts my courage. No one single person had it all together in life. You will find out that the people you are helping had something to add to the richness of your life. With this in mind, let us join hands to relief the misery in Haiti in any way we can.
Christianah.
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Yvonne Green-FL I read your post and wonder if I wrote it! That is me exactly. Perhaps we can get together and work on holding each other accountable with the daily tasks we need to accomplish to keep us moving forward in the best 10 years of our lives! Let me know if you are interested in a Peak Performance Partner
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Hi,
I clicked the link, but it says nothing found for challenge worksheets !
Am I missing something here ?
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Yvonne, perhaps Darren can start a group forum for everyone on here?
Crunch time is “Action” no more procrastination . Action is where all the action is going to be, each and every accountable action will be rewarding.
It takes courage to take action, getting over fear with courage, lets join hands with a serious commitment.
Moe
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Hi all. So sorry for the error in the email installment tonight! We’re working on it now and will keep you posted.
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Greetings of the day,
Darren, you are the best, i am able to know so many more things, personal insights about myself through the worksheets, i have made several copies of that and my family members are also filling up the sheets, i think we will be a very happy family in the coming years, with new set of personal goals and ambitions for ourselves. Keep it up. as i read in few comments, lets start a forum or a group of Darren’s BEST 10 YEARS ONLINE CLASS.
All of you who are following Darren in his mission to have our BEST 10 YEARS, have a great day ahead & a wonderful future. Manoj Shrivastav, Mumbai, INDIA
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Darren only one regret from me, my subscription to the SUCCESS MAGAZINE is canceled by the International Distributor, saying that the delivery is not possible in Mumbai, INDIA. I was getting regular delivery for 12 months. but it is stopped. please check if you can help.
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I come from my email and I didn’t receive any email with a password to access worksheet 7. I only receive the normal subscription of the blog and the link to get access is not avialable! I’m lookink forward to have this great resource.
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When I click in the email to access the worksheet it says sorry not found. Is it because this will be the hardest worksheet to fill out?
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The worksheets are not at the link provided. It says Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
Thanks,
Frankw
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I love your series – it is changing my life. However, I tried to access your archived worksheets and it wont open. Can you give us all a clue as to how to get to them? But thank you SO much for this program
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DO what I SHOULD do. Could the better me be that easy?
[DARREN HARDY] Great question to ask yourself, Jane! What have you come up with?
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Hello everybody!
The sheets are amazing, aren’t they? And darren as well. I was thinking how can I help the people attending the prosses of achieving success.
I am a young designer in berlin. I decided to enrich your life with nice drafts that I make if you are intersested in. And of course for free. I design wedding dresses and all kind of other dresses. It would be fun if you can share ideas and inspiration.
All of you, who love nice clothes and especially dresses, can contact me. My e-mail ist ivelina72000@yahoo.de
Enjoy life!
Best wishes,
Ivelina
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SHANE- Thats you the guy who responded first – I HEAR YOU – your words of “self-sabotage” – are my goal of completion this year for me. Changing this behaviour is the BIGGEST TASK I have ever taken on – giving birth – marriage of 20 years my own business – nothing compares to those words of self-sabotage. GET IT
I have started to tackle this head on – first thing – forgive myself -forgive myself – forgive myself. I keep saying this. When I do a great job – I complete a task – I physically get excited – I dance – scream YA HOO – I jump up and down – I make myself go to that place of satisfaction and self approval. YES YES YES
Right now I am extreme – but my kids & husband understand this is key and well they are helping me. Soon it will be soft and gentle – but for 25 years I have been killing the dreams with my self-sabotage arrows – so extreme is key.
If you want -to support me I will support you. I was thinking we could tweet each other – I am really working on this social media – via Guy’s interview Darren and I am trying. PLUS it needs to be quick & simple and to the point – (for me – I carry on) Yes good job – keep on track – are we done those sheets? As well it is live – so throwing out the energy at the time it is happening – well lets just deal with it now- seems a direct hit!
If your in – my tweeter account is noseknowsnose – mention Darren and I will know it is you. Do not have an account – set one up its free. Anyone else in for praise and excitement – join the NON-self-sabotage – tweets!
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Where is the link for #7, I have had no problems with the other parts but can not find #7.
Thanks
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I am unable also to down load link 7 it ask to copy “Please enter the characters displayed in the box. If you are unable to see the text clearly, you may reload this window for a new image.” but the image is just a box with a ? mark. Thanks
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I am with everyone else – this has been a FABULOUS exercise. It has really gotten me to THINK about some things. The 360 exercise has helped highlight something I think I already knew, but it is something that came up in the responses I got from the people I asked the questions.
I am working with a self confidence issue. A lack of it — which holds me back from being authentic. Because I avoid getting into “conflict” I will not speak up, I will not back up my opinions and I hold back from doing things that will carry me forward. This is self sabbotage as well!
Will connect to Tracy via twitter. Anyone can feel free to do that with me as well, I am ritefrmtheheart.
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Hi,
Just went in to get my worksheets for Week 7. When I click on the archive link I get the following error message:
“Not Found … Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.”
Help! I don’t want to miss anything! It has been great so far!
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Brett,
Thanks for solving the mystery about the link for the worksheet for this email. If anyone else needs it, here it is.
http://www.success.com/pdf/db10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
Onward and upward! :=)
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Me too. Unable to down load worksheet # 7. Getting this error message when I click on the link to download it:
” Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here. “
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People – read the site – they are working on it.
Andrea I am in – building from what we learn – twitt and lets get through this as a team!
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SORRY I WAS UNABLE TO DOWNLOAD WORKSHEET #7 THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR HELP DAREN I AM RELY ENJOIN THIS STUDIES
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I need help downloading section 7. Please help!
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Darren, thank you for opening up this type of learning forum; I have been challenged by the worksheets in every area of my life. I have been challenged to look at myself in a new light. Here is my issue: I know I have great qualities, I know that I am intelligent, beautiful, etc…; but it has been hard for me to use these attributes to further myself in my career. Each year I have progressively increased my income (through God’s grace and my work ethic) but I haven’t quite achieved my goals. I do realize that I have to learn how to market myself more and allow that great confidence to shine bright? How do I do authentically? I am ready to move to the next level but how do I catapult myself there?
[DARREN HARDY] Who you need to become and the actions you need to take should become apparent by end of this week…and additionally supported next week.
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God Bless you Darren for this study, This program has really given me the opportunity to clearly define what it is I think about on a daily basis. Gods word teaches us that what a man THINKETH so shall he become. Our thoughts play a large part in this however it is not until our thoughts line up with our hearts that the real picture becomes clear. What are our hearts telling us, what are our passions and compassions? I would like to share another website that is working along with the information you have given us and this might help others as well to bring everything full circle. The Internet is huge and we are all connected by this increadable tool. Wisdom of the world is available to us and now through the power of the internet we have the ability to connect to it in a much greater way!
God Bless and make it a JOYFUL DAY!
http://mindmoviedownload.com/?tony-robbins-seminar&gclid=CLTVz6ySwp8CFRHxDAodGzFl3g
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We have set clear goals and action plans. The most important part of this journey is to FOLLOW THROUGH the action plans and make sure WE DO WHAT WE SAY WE WILL DO and achieve our personal mission.
One way to overcome procrastination and achieve our highest goal is to find accountablility partners. I am Tibetan but I am now living in Toronto, Canada and would love to find accountability partner in Toronto if anyone is interested. Please contact me at karma@rigsar.com
Thank You
Karma
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problems to do
wnload link deleted or something like that or removed
Thanks
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If you are still experiencing difficulty downloading the work sheet. Try this link
http://www.success.com/pdf/DB10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
Good Luck
Karma
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Thank you Darren for this awesome course you have put together for us. I just want to offer encouragement to the person who may read this. Success is right around the corner and sometimes if you just push that one extra minute, second, thought, word, or decision this is what makes results. We often don’t go the extra mile or take the road less traveled because of more work we see ahead. But it takes steam to power a train and a made up mind to get what you want out of life. So my thoughts to you is live life without limits. Take off the chains that bind you in your situation, speak out, uplift and stay ENCOURAGED. Stick with this program even when you don’t want to and watch the magic, true magic that is unveil itself. I am a single mother of two, I work and attend school for Nursing and if I can do it so can you.
Be inspired today
[DARREN HARDY] Thanks for the words of encouragement, Joanne!
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I am getting an error on the link to access the downloads. What might be the problem?
Love everything we are doing. It’s really great to be walked through this step by step. In the past, it all seemed so overwhelming and I just could wrap my arms and head around this. I feel much better this time around.
Thank you so much for the help.
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Brett, Thank you for providing the link. That did the trick!
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Yea! Success! I was able to access the link at:
http://www.success.com/pdf/DB10_worksheet_set_7.pdf
Never had so much trouble before – was this a test, Darren, to see how serious we are? Just kidding. I spent over an hour last night and a good amount of time this morning trying to access the link. This is very important to me and I appreciate all you are doing to help us and providing this service for free. Thank you!
Many thanks to Brett in comment 56 for pointing the way! Shows me how much I can learn from reading the posts.
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I can’t download the archive. The following message appears when i follow the link:
Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
How do I solve this?
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I’m getting an error on the link also
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I’m getting an error on the link also
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This has been an inspiring but challenging process! I taught a goal setting session at my office Jan. 2nd. I was inspired to start a 30 day TV fast. Yup – no TV for 30 days…and it has been the most amazing, productful time of my life. I would never had come across your program ‘Best 10 yrs’ had I been stuck in the same old same old. I passed the link on to over 250 people & talked about it in our training. My last 10 years have been fairly successful, however I am so grateful for the opportunity to re-examine my past & make much more specific plans for the next 10. Because of your program & my TV Fast & a book called ‘ Holy Discontent’ by Bill Hybels – I have been motivated to dream MUCH bigger in the impact I could make in the realm of Teenagers & their faith, their choices, identity & purpose. I mentor a number of young women & have come up with some BIG ideas & goals on how to impact not only their lives but their whole community, the city, maybe even a nation. I do have to say though that this is all made possible because 20 yrs ago my husband & I set goals & worked hard together to accomplish them. Goal setting works!
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Darren,
WOW! What a perfect installment. I just finished Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book, “Excuses Begone!” I have been immersed in the book for two weeks, both reading it and listening to the CD. It over laps with this installment, and gives such an in depth meaning of what it means to give and why. I highly recommend it as a book to read this year. I started to use the paradigms of giving in the book and already I have experienced the return. I look forward to the worksheets with great anticipation.
Thank You.
Richard
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Eccellent site Thanks Darren I have been having problems on finding the best qualities that I have I asked to all my close friends and they told me I’m crazy because I have to plan daily and not 10 years so far im having trouble and also my defects in order to get better
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I love this project/program but I am having nothing but trouble finding and getting the worksheets. Now my password doesn’t allow me to get into the archives to download the #7 worksheet. I don’t have time to fool around with this! Please get someone on this to make it easier to access. I REALLY want to participate in this program. Please let me know what to do to access these worksheets.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Cecelia! So sorry you are having trouble with the worksheets! I’ll be in touch very soon to help you get it all sorted out.
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To Shane J (who wrote Comment #3, above)
I have begun tracking my efforts on a January calendar (printed out), with symbols showing each thing I have done that day. For example, if I worked on my Spanish that day I use a highlighter to make a yellow dot. Seeing lots of dots (and other symbols) on my calendar gives me good, positive visual feedback that I’m making real progress. I am going to keep each month’s calendar as I do them this year. Also, if any of my daily and weekly goals are a bit unrealistic (sometimes I don’t know how many nights a week I can get the energy after 10:00 to do productive work), I can make adjustments with less guilt. As I am writing this, I am thinking that short term rewards to oneself are a good idea. For example, if you accomplish a task a certain # of times in a month, you get a small reward. I’ll have to take my own advice and think up some reward for myself for Jan. if I do well.
I know sticking with routine tasks, when the ultimate goal seems distant, can be tedious. Hang in there!
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Okay all, everything is working now! Go ahead and use the link (http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/) and password and you should be able to access everything as instructed in the email. Thanks for your patience!!!
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Tania, regarding your having trouble getting Success magazine delivered to you in Mumbai, just the other day I got an email confirming my online subscription to the magazine. Maybe that’s the answer to not being able to get the hardcopy version? Definitely worth checking into! All the best!
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There is one thing I just cannot understand and I have been struggling with it for quite some time.
When ever I worked a JOB I excelled. Once I even had a promotion created for me. I had such high self-esteem when it came to my work. Throw anything at me and I’ll show you a better way of doing things.
Unfortunately, due to circumstances, I no longer work in the corporate world and settled for a home health care job cause it paid better. (not my career of choice).
When ever I have friends who has issues, I would sit with them and help come up with solutions to the situation. And when they did try my suggestions, it worked out well for them.
so explain to me WHY now that I am trying to start my own business, helping other learn online marketing, that my self-esteem is so low?
I have been pushing myself to finish each installment, pushing myself to read and listen to personal development material. At times I feel so good that I can concur the world and then like an energy drink, I crash!
This course has definitely confirmed what I want in life and also what is keeping me from it, my low self-esteem.
I am going to continue pushing for I have decided that I want to change so my life can change.
Needless to say, my #1 Attribute is self-esteem!
Between work and home and working on business, I never get a chance to be around people, to interact. Have to figure out how to give so I can get.
Tamra
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Tamra – Did that – understand – really. All I know _ I would use my family – dynamics – relationships – marriage – kids – people – you name it even neighbours to avoid looking in my mirror.
So now I need to face myself every day – I said no to the neighbour yesterday – she wanted to have coffee cause she was bored – and gossip. Politely I told her maybe on the weekend when I have coffee time. My sister – I know she was reaching out cause she needs my energy – it is never about just visiting – it never has been – she stop calling along time ago. So politely NO – when I look deep inside – I become accountable – I become important – I also start to feel the stuff I avoid – so chin up. You are so not alone – but as a mentor said to me 80% of the work is showing up – keep going something magical will happen.
You are closer than you think!
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Thank You Darren!!! Have a great week
~ Kim
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Up to now I have been able to print and download Worksheets. I don’t have a password that I know of.
Please can I get access to GIVE TO GET Worksheets (Download 7). Help.
Please send to mary_ann.tantalo@bell.ca. Thank you.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Mary! The password is located at the bottom of the email installment just under the download link.
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Hi Mary,
The password is contained in the session 7 email.
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he last e-mail has the link with the texto below:
CLICK HERE TO ACCESS OUR ONLINE ARCHIVE OF WORKSHEETS
But, when I click, the following phrase appears:
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Not Found
Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn’t here.
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I am using CHROME browser, but also tried with Explorer. Same problem.
Aldo Novak, Brazil
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Hi Darren, I am a subscriber from the begining, but I have not recieved any link and password to get to the archive.
Thank you.
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I would like to leave a comment to the message of Shane J dd 26th January. I can understand you as I have similar problems that come up during the activity. I dont have a problem doing the lessons for this project. I set away time for it, 45 minutes every morning, I get up earlier and basically on track, maybe a liitle behind depending on the volume of the lessons.
The problems I will face (that is my experience from the Past) is bringing the plan into action and sticking to it. So I am actually also looking for someone with whom I could work this through together and also get involved in each others process of planning and putting it into action.
My problem is, that I am from Germany and it is almost impossible getting someone involved in this over here (language problem). But being in the time of Email, Skype, Internet etc it shouldn´t be a problem setting up a communication basis throughout the world.
So I am open to it …. if there is anybody here that would like to join … I would be delighted.
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Thanks Tasha-FL ! Peak Performance is so wonderful when you reach the finish line and some ones there to be proud of your endurance level. I look forward to it!
Thanks Moe!
As we succeed in life, with an attitude of gratitude, everyone around us will benefit as well.
I Always encourage others to reach back and give someonelse a hand up as you hold your hand out for someonelse to help lift you up to their level.
I have also learned, that Your next Level depends on Who you walk with. Darren Hardy and Success Magazine is the epitome of what I want my next level to be.
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This is the Tracy from Post #11… Thank you Rich, Nathalie, April, & John for your great advice. I am saving them on a Word document and will print and hang on my wall for inspiration when I am feeling that fear of making a call! Thanks!
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Many comments on lack of self confidence, it’s definitely one of the most important tool for success (in all area of your life) Jack Canfield is a master this subject! His CDs: Maximum confidence, 10 steps to extreme self-confidence are exceptional.
There is exert of his interviews with Darren on the Archive of Success.com under video, if you follow his principles and apply them on daily basis, it works miracle! I experience it!
http://video.success.com/from-the-magazine/canfield-chicken-soup-soul/
Thomas, about bringing the plan to action a great tool is to create a ‘Project tracker’ and review it every week. In an Excel Sheet you write your projects a planned beginning date, a project finishing date (when you plan to finish it) the person you can delegate to, or help you need, the % done.
Every week you will have some 50, 80 or 100%! and it feels good to see your progress.
Do a project tracker for 3 months and review it every week, because it will evolve and you’ll have to adjust it, add things most of the time.
But it really help to prioritize.
Another great tool I am using is the TIMER! Some are making fun of me with this, but believe me it gives you a dead line, so you stay focus on your task.
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Thank you, Darren, for this great series.
Three attributes:
1) I want to write consistently and passionately. Perhaps another way to phrase it: Be consistent and passionate [about work / goals]
2) Develop entrepreneur mindset
3) Play full out / give my best effort on a regular basis
Also, I’m intrigued by Ivelina’s (from Berlin) post. Ivelina—you want to be a designer and are giving away free designs (drafts). Do I understand that correctly? I’m curious because I’m also pursuing a creative goal (writing fiction).
Thanks for everyone’s ideas and posts.
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Looks like I’m not alone in not being able to locate the worksheets #7. . . LOVE this series – thank you so much. I am however still trying to catch up as I started a few weeks late.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Dawn! It’s all working now so you can access the worksheets from http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/ using the password located at the bottom of the email.
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Hi Darren,
Thanks for this awesome program! Learning a lot. I think the group forum is a great idea. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you everyone that has commented, the comments are extremely helpful.
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There is no worksheet #7 to download.
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Doug Lee,
I am interested in your program for wt loss.
email – mrstwrn61@yahoo.com
thanks
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I’m glad I ‘m not alone in this journey. Being in my 40′s and having been laid-off, I am now fighting with many issues about my life: attitudes, behavior and even still trying to find my passion. All these exercises are digging deep inside me and it has been very challenging but “If you never have challenges, you can never find out just what you’re capable of”. That’s a quote from Willie Jolley in the awsome article “The Comeback King” on the February issue of Success magazine. I live in Calgary, Alberta, Canada and it would be nice to meet with like-minded people in the neighborhood, or just meet electronically and support each other in any way we can. I am ready to give what I want. Keep going everyone! I can see the light! Thank you Darren!
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My biggest problem is that I like the idea of doing everything if you know what I mean. I feel as though I have an entrepreneurial mind-set but its like I hear and think about all these great/cool/fun ideas that I would love to bring to life but I never act on them (up until now that is). The Grand Design part of this series helped me to focus on my top priorities and harness my imagination. One of the things that I will be working on is brainstorming, writing down all my ideas and choosing the top few or one that I feel has the best potential. There’s so much (success) that I would like to get my hands on and bring into my life and along the way to give and help others achieve the same! Oh I can’t wait!!
[DARREN HARDY] Awesome, Keith! LOVE your enthusiasm! Keep it coming!
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I am interested in a peak performer who would like to partner with me, send me an e mail address
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Still can’t get part 7!!! Going through withdraw!!!!!
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Darren:
This is great stuff and I am enjoying it immensely. I did not receive the e-mail with a password. Can it be retreived or resent in some other way?
Thank you so much.
Tom
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Tom! I’ll resend it to you asap.
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I can’t get the number 7 attachment opened!
[MAGGIE SCOTT] I’ll be in touch shortly to see what I can do!
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Just a heads up for those who cannot find the password, it is located at the bottom of your email that was sent to you, Then click on the archives and worksheet section and enter the password.’
[DARREN HARDY] Thanks for the help, Jay!
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Darren, Thank you this has been a tremendous experience at the young age of 51 and praying for direction and wisdom, as Maxwell says looking for the significance.
I appreciated you Blessing us with your “GIVING” as this lesson teaches.
Have a Blesed, and Prosperously profitable day at “Success”.
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I am one of the people that is way behind on the worksheets (haven’t started them), but have been amazingly inspired and learned a great deal about myself and how I relate to the world around me and others just from reading Darren’s lessons. I must say to the skeptics that you do receive far more in return when you give. That fact has been played out many times over in my life and it is only through times of reflection (not seeking to get) that I even realized it. I am elated about this process and my prayer is that it stays with me and gives me more to give out to others. My greatest weekness is not setting goals but staying with them long after the process is finely worked out. That is one of the reasons I hadn’t done the paperwork. That’s the easy part for me. It’s as if I enjoy the start of anything but I lack the follow through. I guess that is where the strong “WHY” gets you over the slump. Thanks for allowing me to share my thoughts!
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Tracy #116,
Thank you for the encouragement!!! Talk about Seek and You Shall Find….
After making the post, and not knowing who I was going to help get their self-esteem up so I may also get more self-esteem, I received a phone call.
It was a 26 yr old friend of my niece. She asked if she could come over and see me. After talking with her, I found out that she filled an application to attend classes to be an police officer. She said she always thought she would be good at it. However, her low self-esteem is keeping her back. She is afraid and not sure if she can do it.
She said I was the only one she could talk to about wanting to change herself so that she can have a better life. All her other friends and family thinks it’s a stupid idea. She said she has seen changes in me and wants to make changes in herself.
This is my chance to encourage her to pursue her dream of being an officer and help her on her journey.
Give to Get!
So later in the day, I was feeling very good and was talking to a gentleman about being a booking agent for his yacht. Well, today he asked me how I would charge to do additional marketing set up on blogging and facebook. (We’re working out the details.)
It really feels good, but weird at the same time. Is this really happening? Am I the one making the changes by thinking positive. I may not know for sure yet, but I am loving how I feel right now!
Tamra
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I have been following the program since day 1 and I first have to say thanks to everyone – Darren and all the great people leaving comments (besides all the ‘where are the worksheets’ – I think one is enough, yes?). I have been reading the comments, and keeping up with each installment, but more as an outside observer. I guess this is the installment that finally motivated me to get more involved. So… yay! I’m out.
Anyways, I’ve read all the comments and feel in line with quite a few of you. I totally avoid making those important phone calls, I lack the self-confidence to take that “next step” in really achieving my BHAG (I mean, these really are some big hairy audacious goals for my little 20-something self!!!), and although I can be super motivated for a while, I always seem to run out of steam when things get just a little tough, or something else comes up.
I would really love to have an accountability partner, and seeing all that everyone here has to offer, this seems like the best place to find someone. I really live a mobile life, so it’d have to be internet-based for sure. But that means it can be anyone, anywhere
Little freaked out to post my email or contact info here. (I think a forum with login available would be awesome for us all to connect in a more organized manner since we are getting 100+ comments here. Then you could have a section especially for people to complain about a broken link, etc, and filter that out.) But if anyone is interested in being my accountability partner in these areas, maybe we can help one another achieve the best 10 years together!
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Look at my top 3 goals for year 2010 and 2020 and I reviewed worksheets I have done in this group coaching session I have identified that I will need to concentrate on the following three characteristics/attributes that will make biggest difference and provide most value to achieving my goals:
1. FOCUS – I must FOCUS on my #1 priority of the day first and complete as soon as possible.
2. ACTION-ORIENTED – I must take immidiate action on whatever is next without procrastinating.
3. POSITIVE ATTITUDE – I must maintain a postive expectation for every action I take.
These three attributes are also I want to GIVE to others in form of email, conversation or in group sessions whenever I see anyone experience lack of focus, procrastinating, or need uplift in their life. I can’t think of who else to give these. Can anyone help me how can I give more of these attributes. I have been reading number of books and experimenting with different ideas to implement in my daily life. To Get more of these I am reading following books and I also recommand others to read these books:
1. Success Principles by Jack Canfield
2. Eat That Frog by Brian Tracy
3. Million Dollar Habits by Brian Tracy
4. The Power of Focus by Jack Canfield ( I just order this book three days ago )
I hope you will find this posting helpful. If I can be any helpful to anyone of you, please feel free to contact me at karma@rigsar.com
Thank You Darren for this incredible coaching and guidance.
–Karma
[DARREN HARDY] Thanks for sharing these resources, Karma!
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I am enjoying this whole process, however, I am not sure how to download the seventh sheet. Where, when, and how do I apply the pass word?
Thank you.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Shelba! You enter the password on this website: http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/ It was located at the bottom of the email installment, just above the password.
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This is getting better by the week. Can you teach an old dog new tricks? It all depends if the dog has an attitude of believing that age has no importance, and believes you are as old as you feel. I’m about to turn 62 (retierment age) and I feel that I’m just getting started. Thanks for the encouragement Darren.
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Lindsey #141 made the following comments:
“I think a forum with login available would be awesome for us all to connect in a more organized manner since we are getting 100+ comments here. Then you could have a section especially for people to complain about a broken link, etc, and filter that out.”
I WOULD BE HAPPY TO CREATE A FORUM BASED DISCUSSION WEBSITE SPECEFICLY FOR THIS GROUP WITH SUCURE LOGIN TO PROTECT PRIVACY. THIS WILL ENABLE US TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH EACH OTHER AND CREATE A NETWORK OF ACHIEVERS TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER TO REACH YOUR GOALS FOR 2010 AND FOR THE NEXT 10 YEARS.
PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF ANYONE INTERESTED. I WILL CREATE THE SITE IN NEXT COUPLE OF WEEKS IF THERE IS ENOUGH INTEREST. Email: karma@rigsar.com
Thanks
Karma
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Shelba #143
You can click on the following link and enter password (all UPPER case)
http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/
I hope this will help you.
Thanks
Karma
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Greetings, I cannot access the archives of forms, I inadvertantly lost my username & password. Thanks!
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Robert! There is no username required. You simply use the password provided at the bottom of the email installment here: http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/
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Thanks again to everyone who is posting attributes. Karma, your #1 “focus” is great. Also, it’s nice to see others about wanting to be consistent and not only start a new project with gusto but also finish it as passionately.
Personally, I am out of my comfort zone posting to the blog, but I want to go to new levels and accomplish new things. If I want something I’ve never had, I need to do things I’ve never done. I encourage everyone to contribute.
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Hi Darren, I am loving every part of this journey and usually review and edit my worksheets days later with a clear mind. But as I have tried the last worksheet and reviewed it today I am still stuck.
I listed my attributes tuesday as follows; belief in self, positive attitude and to be more resourceful and economical and I am not sure how to work with others to help them develop these traits.
Can you help me?
[DARREN HARDY] What attributes do you NEED, not what you have. Decide what you lack and go give it to someone else.
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hi darren
unfortunitly, i have lost part 7 of the pdf, design the best 10 year mastery course
i would be obliged i you would kind send me a link
kind regards
Andrew
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Andrew! All of the PDF worksheets to date are now archived here: http://darrenhardy.success.com/about/challenge-worksheets/ You can access them using the password located at the bottom of the two most recent email installments.
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Hi Darren,
I am having difficulty with part 7. The attributes that I need to bolster in myself are the following:
1. Surrounded by Peers and Mentors who elevate personal expectations
2. Focused on High Payoff and high productivity actions
3. Large Network of Peers
Now, I know these are not typical attributes, however they describe the people that I see that have the success in the areas in which I want to succeed. How do I help others with obtaining these items? Can you offer some suggestions?
Thanks!
Recia
[DARREN HARDY] Those are actions and activities. Go back to the attributes and characteristics you need to develop to become the person who once doing those activities will be effective and attractive to others.
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Hi Recia,
You, yourself could be a part of the person’s network (and mentor/peer) and help them elevate there goals by encouraging and continually challenging them to do better than before. With the people you’re helping you can assist them with planning out their days and analyze what activities prove to be the most productive yielding a high payoff and eliminating those that don’t. Also, you could help them get in touch and find like-minded individuals or groups to expand their network (and yours)…
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Ok, I got the attributes I need. #1 is self-confidence (or courage to face my fears); #2 is Love or Friendliness. Is not that people hate me, but I don’t seem to do a good job meeting people and making new friends. Maybe a consequence of #1; #3 is accountability. It has happend to me also, that I set goals and don’t follow through, and this could be because my goals involve meeting people. Any feedback from anyone who is fearless, friendly/outgoing and holds him/herself accountable? Thank you everyone for all your comments.
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I have been receiving all the installments to download – however no that it is on one online archive i have yet to receive my password, please help
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Lisa! The password is located at the bottom of the last three emails, right below the Archive link. I’ll send it to you again just to be sure you get it.
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Hi Lisa, The password is at the bottom of the two most recent emails.
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Darren, thanks for responding.
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I’m feeling like Recia and a few others who are not sure how to give what they are lacking. My attributes that I feel are most needed and lacking in me are 1. boldness 2. belief and confidence in myself 3. I want to be more inspiring and motivating to others. Honestly I feel so lacking in these I’m not sure who I could find that would be in more need than me! I love the concept of giving what you need… but a little unsure how to give something like boldness that I so lack.
Julie
[DARREN HARDY] Hi Julie, we are all surrounded by people who need more belief and confidence in themselves. Pick someone and help them – tell them what you observe is really great about them. Point out their strengths and unique qualities. Find out what they want to be better at and find resources for them that would help them accomplish that (books, people, seminars, CD’s, SUCCESS magazine). Find them doing things right and celebrate them for it. If someone wants to be more bold as them where they want to be bold? Do they want to call on a big prospect, make a big presentation? Help them prepare for or even go with them to call on that client. Help them prepare for that presentation. Take them somewhere that pushes their adventure envelop. Help them practice boldness.
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This post is for a lot of you who are having trouble finding people who you can help . The best way to find someone who needs help in the areas of life you need help in is to look at your circle of friends and the people who you hang with the most because if you take a look at your 6 closes friends you will find you are an average of them. You probably don’t even realize that they struggle with the same problems you are, the difference is your ready to do something about it and they’re not. Sometimes the answers we seek are right in front of use but we are too busy to notice.
Once I had worked with someone who was fed up with his job but didn’t know what to do. I looked at him and said you can do anything you want in life you just have to pursue it, then I gave him phone number of a friend of mine who was looking for help. He later quit his job and went on to work with my friend for years. I met him 15 years later and told me that I impacted his life more than anyone he ever met. It was that day I realized we help people every day and most of the time we never even realize it. I felt so empowered that day just knowing I helped one person. So just look at your closes friends and you can probable find what you’re looking for.
Other books are : The Science of Success, Think and Grow Rich and Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life by Larry Winget. If you want a free copy of the Science of Success or Think and Grow Rich you can find them on the Internet for free just search free ebooks or you can email me and I send you a copy. Email me @ ej6777@yahoo.com and send you a copy of both if you want.
[DARREN HARDY] Thanks for the words of encouragement and for sharing this story with us, Eddie!!!
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I have been a competitive Triathlete for 18 years and have represented Canada at the World Triathlon Championships twice. Any members of this course who are looking to improve their fitness, please feel free to send me your fitness questions. pj115@hotmail.com.
I am in need of two things, how to find a “great” mentor and how to take a part-time consulting practice to the next level, full-time. http://www.pillarsofperformance.ca
Any insights would be great!
Thanks!
Paul
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Darren I can’t seem to download part 7 & 8. I have 1-6 and 9, but can’t seem to get these to download. Can someone help me, thanks. I’m excited about this program you are providing us.
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Rose! I’ll look into this for you and be in touch shortly!
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I have reviewed the comments and still haven’t found an answer to help me with wrksht 11 – Give to get.
My top 3 Attributes to be strengthened are: 1) Work Ethic, 2) Integrity, 3) Passion. How do I find someone having the same requirement, or most of all how to help them.
I am really stuck, how do I help someone become more integral or passionate? Or help someone improve their work ethic, without telling them they need improvement…..
Perhaps I am overanalysing and making this way too complicated, just want to get it right so that I take full advantage of this course. I need huge personal growth and my business is really suffering because of my lack of action. I know if I do this completely it will have a huge impact on me!!
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Jackie,
I’m stuck too so I don’t really have any answers for you. I know I do tend to overanalyze things and I’m trying to think differently on this one. I wonder too, how do I find someone with the same needs as myself? How do I give them what I lack? How can I help someone be inspiring when I’m not inspiring? I also need the personal growth and feel like you in wanting to take full advantage.
I’m trying to jump in and do this even though I’m not sure what I’m doing! There is a young, newly married girl at church who seems very sad and isolated. She doesn’t have much family support or many friends. I have no idea if she’s lacking any of the 3 specific attributes I’m needing… but her name came to my mind and she could undoubtedly use a friend. I’m going to reach out to her and figure I can’t lose, right? Even if I’m unsure at this point what I can offer her.
Not sure about 2 other people but I’m trying to keep my eyes and mind open and hope it leads somewhere positve! The whole idea of give you what don’t have, to get is so foreign to me that it tells me I must be very much in need of this!
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Julie and Jackie—integrity is something i need to work on as well. I think the biggets thing about integrity is demonstrating first to your self then others. SO, do you always do what you SAY/committ to yourself you will do? To help with tis area i think we simply need an accountabilty partner. Someone we can share the things we plan to do and then follow up with them or have them follow up with us to make sure its been done. If you agree, i’d be happy to be an accountabilty parner for either of you. I also owned a business and am very sensitive to how the lack of passion can affect it. You can respond to this thread if you are interested with an email to contact you.
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Thanks Julie for your support, its great that you are stepping up to help that girl out. I commend you for that. Helping people is my lifes desire. However, in this excercise, I still have no idea how to find the people who are lacking in the same areas as me, what to look for to see if they are lacking and exactly how I can help them.
Tasha, thanks also for your thoughts as well. I already use accountability partners in my business, but will keep you in mind if they are not working out.
I am clear on integrity and how I have to improve, but it’s something inside thats keeping me from staying on track.
My question is, in the area of integrity, if I do find someone that is not being their word, or dishonest to themselves or others, how do I turn that around for them?
In the area of work ethic, how do I spot someone who doesn’t have the self discipline in their business, lack of action, or lack of commitment to their goals (if that sums up work ethic) and turn that around for them?
Lastly, passion. If I am on the right track here, if someone shows no passion for anything, get to know them and find what they love and whats holding them back from being passionate about it and help bring it out in them???
Darren, do you have any input on this? Clearly you are a master at success and have a server mindset in the way that you strive to help others. Your feedback would be extremely valued.
[DARREN HARDY] Jackie, encourage others with your example. Take someone who might be struggling with the same issue and someone who has a sincere interest in trying to improve in that same area and explain what you are doing to improve it yourself. Explain how you struggle, but then figure out how to do the right thing. Use your experience, testimony and story as an example to encourage and support someone else working on the same attributes of improvement for themself.
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Jackie,
Great that you get it…would you be interested in helping me with Accountabilty and integrity with the promises i make to myself…being true to myself by keeping them. I def need help with this. I dont need you to “turn” it around for me…just be there to ask me how i am doing helps me. Plus knowing that i shared my commitments with you amd u are helping me stay true to them will help me move forward.
Let me know if you need someone to help in that area….I’m game
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Tasha, I would love to have accountability discussions with you. Send me an email with your contact info (email and phone #) and we will go from there,
jackiegallo@hotmail.com
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Tasha, let me rephrase that….. I would love to be your accountability partner,
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I am behind but determined to finish this. I cannot get to the archives for week four to print off. How do I find my password to get these.
Thanks,
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Kris! The password is located at the bottom of the email installments, just below the link to the archives. I will email it to you as well to get you on your way!
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I fell a little behind (Vemma Convention last week!!) but am now getting going again. You were AWESOME in Vegas last week; THANK YOU SO MUCH for being there! Saw Zig Ziglar yesterday downtown Phx seminar…they played some clips also from his ‘pumping well for water’ story..it makes so much sense and is SO easy to share it with others..
Hope you are great!!
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forgot my password to access the worksheets
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Wayne! The password is located at the bottom of the most recent email installments and I just emailed you the info. again as well.
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Hi Darrren,
I’ve entered the password for this installment worksheet but seems to be getting nothing.
What other ways are there for me to access the worksheets for Part 7?
Thank you.
CHung
[MAGGIE SCOTT] Hi Chung! The worksheet archives closed to the public as of March 1st but I went ahead and sent you an email to help you out.
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I seem to be missing a few worksheets and have been unsuccessful getting them so far. Does anyone have any suggestions or know how I can get them? Thanks!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
April 28th, 2010 at 3:31 pm
I’ll have them sent to you asap, Rob.
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Darren and Maggie thanks a million!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
April 29th, 2010 at 3:31 pm
You’re very welcome, Rob! Enjoy!
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Hi Darren,
I am absolutely loving this program and thank you for making this available for free. Unfortunately, I have been slow to finish this. I am missing Worksheets 7 & 8, Give and Get and Strategic Plan. I realize you have taken these off the public site so can you please have your assistant email these to me? I would greatly appreciate it. I can’t wait to order your new book, The Compound Effect. I am also ordering one for my cousin who graduates this week as Valedictorian of her high school class. Thanks again.
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Hi Darren,
I am absolutely loving this program and thank you for making this available for free. Unfortunately, I have been slow to finish this. I am missing Worksheets 7 & 8, Give and Get and Strategic Plan. I realize you have taken this off the public site so can you please have your assistant email these to me? I would greatly appreciate it. I can’t wait to order your new book, The Compound Effect. I am also ordering one for my cousin who graduates this week as Valedictorian of her high school class. Thanks again.
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I am missing Worksheets 7 & 8, Give and Get and Strategic Plan. Can you please email these to me. I would greatly appreciate it.
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Darren Hardy Reply:
May 26th, 2010 at 2:57 pm
Will get my assistant right on it, TJ!
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Excellent ideas! I will need to deeply rethink some of them! It for sure isn’t that easy as the commercials make it seem. You really gotta be extremely consistent and you should never ever give up. The results will come in due time.
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I am missing worksheet 7 & 8 and I was trying to access the archive with the password provided and it is not letting me in. Is there a way that I might be able to get these?
Thanks so much!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
June 7th, 2010 at 3:26 pm
Help is on the way, Carol!
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Great article
There’s nothing like being lean and healthy. In today’s era of fastfood, we have toworkout occasionnaly and get rid off our unhealthy diet habits. It’s not extremely hard. You only need to stick to a diet program and continue until you reach your goals.
Thank you for sharing this with your readers.
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I’m finally getting through the worksheets after a tumultuous year and can’t access the archive with the password provided in the email.
Please help!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
November 8th, 2010 at 3:36 pm
Help is on the way, Leanne! Expect an email soon.
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