Video Update from Darren Hardy–End of Week 5
Here’s a summary of week five in our journey towards Designing the Best 10 Years of Your Life where I answer your questions and give you a course update.
I’ve also selected some of your questions and observations left in the comments sections along with some of my responses. I hope you find it helpful to peruse through the common questions and insights shared by others experiencing the process along with you.
Please watch the video:
>>>You can listen to my private interview with the great Jim Rohn HERE<<<
This was included in the premier launch issue of SUCCESS magazine, April/May 2008
Questions and Answers with Darren Hardy:
From Renee: “I am really enjoying this program and look forward to working through this process, thank you! The worksheet on designing SMART goals is really helpful and I see that goals need to be measurable, attainable, and time sensitive. To me, my most relevant goal for myself for 2010 is to be more open with myself and others… I know this is what I need and what I want, but I am not sure how to make that into a SMART goal. How do you really measure that? Or should I rework my goal? Any suggestions?”
[DARREN HARDY] What does “open with yourself and others” look like? How would we know you are or aren’t? What are the visible and measurable effects of that description? Why do you want that? What will be the benefit and outcome of being that way? Maybe the ultimate outcome of being that way is what your goal really is. Keep asking yourself “why” when you write down your goal. Ex. I want to be more open with others. Why? So I can endear trust and confidence in others. Why? So I can be a more effective leader. Why? So I can help others improve themselves and better their lives. Why? So I can build a bigger business and stronger family, better friendships, etc. Now we are getting somewhere…
From John Richards: “Should you schedule your goal tasks on your calendar and do you schedule your week or do you schedule each day. This is the most incredible workshop I have ever been involved in. Thank you”
[DARREN HARDY] Yes and in my book Design Your Best Year Ever I have a Weekly Achievement Planning System that guides you through that process: www.SUCCESS.com/BestYearEver
From Recia: “Hi Darren, I am having difficulty with part 7. The attributes that I need to bolster in myself are the following:
1. Surrounded by Peers and Mentors who elevate personal expectations
2. Focused on High Payoff and high productivity actions
3. Large Network of Peers
Now, I know these are not typical attributes, however they describe the people that I see that have the success in the areas in which I want to succeed. How do I help others with obtaining these items? Can you offer some suggestions? Thanks! Recia”
[DARREN HARDY] Those are actions and activities. Go back to the attributes and characteristics you need to develop to become the person who once doing those activities will be effective and attractive to others.
From Rick: “I am stuck. I want to start some sort of business but I don’t know what kind. The guy who commented before me (”Gary”) has “a small independent insurance agency”. How would I know if I would enjoy that business? Would starting that type of business be my goal? Should my goal be to have a lion taming business? I don’t what enough about insurance or lion taming or most other businesses to know if they would be good goals for me. How do I pick a business?”
[DARREN HARDY] Match the business with the strengths and passions you should have discovered in yourself by now going through this process. Be sure it doesn’t center on what you also discovered are your weaknesses. Make sure it is a business that fits the LIFE you want to lead as well – something else we have covered.
From Julie: “I’m feeling like Recia and a few others who are not sure how to give what they are lacking. My attributes that I feel are most needed and lacking in me are 1. boldness 2. belief and confidence in myself 3. I want to be more inspiring and motivating to others. Honestly I feel so lacking in these I’m not sure who I could find that would be in more need than me! I love the concept of giving what you need… but a little unsure how to give something like boldness that I so lack. Julie”
[DARREN HARDY] Hi Julie, we are all surrounded by people who need more belief and confidence in themselves. Pick someone and help them – tell them what you observe is really great about them. Point out their strengths and unique qualities. Find out what they want to be better at and find resources for them that would help them accomplish that (books, people, seminars, CD’s, SUCCESS magazine). Find them doing things right and celebrate them for it. If someone wants to be more bold as them where they want to be bold? Do they want to call on a big prospect, make a big presentation? Help them prepare for or even go with them to call on that client. Help them prepare for that presentation. Take them somewhere that pushes their adventure envelop. Help them practice boldness.
From Paul: “Hi Darren, The course and worksheets have been great, they have really made me think and stretch myself. The one thing that I realized and have been wowed about is how my 2010 goals link to my 10 year plan, and the action steps that I am now creating is the most exciting part as they are the baby steps towards these goals (lots of motivation in those steps!). Darren are you going to discuss active vs. passive actions, and distraction control? Best, Paul”
[DARREN HARDY] There will be some info on that but you can get all you need in my previous series called Workaholic Anonymous: http://darrenhardy.success.com/2009/01/addiction/
From Nadine: “Darren –For this week, which three goals are we supposed to focus on as we have been working on 6 goals for the past two worksheets the 2010 ones or the 10 yr ones.
or is it up to us to choose.”
[DARREN HARDY] Let’s focus on your 2010 goals. They should be a stepping stone to your 10 year goals anyhow.
From Napoleon: “Now that I have finally caught up, the one area I need help with is. How do I maintain the necessary disciplines, without fustrating my wonderful wife with my level of focus? She has most if the materials and wants to do it, but may not have the same sense of urgency for completing it.”
[DARREN HARDY] Let people go at their own pace. We all have different finger prints for a reason – we are all unique and will have different approaches and paces to what we want to accomplish. Just be sure your wife is on your focused goal list so you don’t neglect one of your most important priorities – husband.
Notable Comments to Inspire YOU:
“Hi Darren. What impacted me the most was when one writes the traits and habits necessary to become the person you want to become. Your example of how you described your wife was helpful. When I wrote down the person I wanted to be, I saw that I fell short. What I need to do to become the person I want to become is overwhelming but not impossible. Also, I am going to redo the 360 segment. The friends and business associated were too nice. Nothing I can work on. We all know that is not true! Now I am going to send this to my husband and my ACN upline and I am sure it will be made very clear to me where I might make some improvements in my life. Thank you so much for this life changing program. Regards, Sally” –Sally, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“Darren, WOW! Yesterday I listened to the CD from Success Magazine Feb. 2010; it is all right on track. You asked today on the 4th week Update video, “what has been the best part of this process for you?” “It is my right to have dreams; I have forgotten that, I have been too busy doing work, doing life…not living it! I have forgotten me, my dreams, and I am scared; I know it is not too late…THANK YOU THANK YOU! Thank you for this opportunity and wake up call.” This gift, this course needs to be a requirement to graduate High School or a part of pre-marriage counseling. This is an amazing gift; I am so grateful to you, Mr. Hardy.” –Doug Graham, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“The 360 review was probably one of the most profound experiences of my adult life, no doubt about it!!! That project took me entirely out of my comfort zone. And I, like you, am still reeling from some of the information I received back. In the spirit of playing full out I insisted on brutal honesty, and that is exactly what I got (why do I have the distinct impression that certain people had been waiting for that opportunity?). As much as I wish I could dispute some of it, or say that I was shocked by it, I can totally see the truth in all of it. Through this process I have been confronted with the root cause of nearly all of my shortcomings (fear). Also, I found it amazing how similar the feedback was from totally different sources. Bottom line – the value of that brutally honest information received is absolutely invaluable. This is information that is vital to my future success, and how else could i have gotten it? It certainly would not have been volunteered, at least not in such a strait forward fashion, without my having asked for it. Totally worth a little bit of discomfort. All in all, this is a great program. Much more intensive and totally different than anything I have been involved with in the past. I am grateful to be involved in it.” –Rich Procter, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“Darren, by far the most earth-shaking exercise for me was the 360 Review! I asked my son, daughter, and husband. Surprisingly, they all agreed for the most part on my weaknesses, which I could relate to; that acknowledgment, painful as it might be, will make a tremendous difference in how I will live my life in the future. It’s like dying and reviewing my life, even more so than the obituary, because it’s from a point-of-view not my own. Even more revealing were the strengths they identified. Each person saw different strengths. It was amazing! Thank you so much for this life-changing process.” –Linda, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“Darren, The 360 View has been amazing. I didn’t stop at 3 people; I’ve asked a good sized group and am planning on asking several more. I was aware of some of what has come out in this exercise but some of it was a total blind spot for me. Wow. The feedback is absolute gold and I’m already using it to make positive changes in how I approach life and relationships. Thank you for your mentorship.” –Bryan Hefner, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“Darren, The element that I’ve really appreciated is the structure and discipline associated with the process! Success, however one defines it, doesn’t just happen, it requires discipline and application. And both of these are difficult but as you keep pointing out in each week’s wrap-up video, it gets easier, the more one builds this discipline into our daily routine. Thanks Darren providing not just the thought leadership but the structure that enables us to win at life! Be blessed.” –Ian, DYB10 Video Update, Week 4
“Darren: Thank you for your mentorship! Both my wife and I are completing the Designing the Best Ten Years of your Life. I’m 51 years old, and the questions reveal a lot of what I haven’t done yet. However, going through the process is exciting! I have so much that I can accomplish in the next ten years, and you’ve given me a clear map to follow, plus the motivation to keep moving forward! At 51 years of age, it’s never to late to start designing the next ten years of your life. Another thing you have given me is HOPE. As Zig Ziglar has said, “If there’s hope in the future, there’s power in the present”. I now have POWER going forward, and it feels great!!
Thanks for helping all of us.” –Keith, DYB10 Part 9
“Wow Darren, this is the bomb!! Life changing transformation daily. The juices are flowing, the confidence is building. My mind is changing, waking up early each day with excitment of what I can accomplish and who can I bless! Im living more in the moment and not worrying about tomorrow, cause I cant grow an inch by worrying. The goals are coming together, and as I visualize and think of who I want to be or accomplish now, my mind is open and attract the people and means to accomplish that goal!” –Ray Ray, DYB10 Part 9