The One Barrier to Your Success
We are mid-stroke the first month of 2012. How you doing?
There is really only one barrier that can stop you from accomplishing every wildly ambitious and outrageous goal you have for 2012.
Do you know where that barrier is?
Let me give you a hint—it’s above your neck and between your ears. Yes, it’s your own mind.
If you want to achieve more this year than you have ever been able to achieve in previous years, then we need to first get your head straight.
I want to help you cultivate what I call an Achievers Mindset.
If you were to guess what I am going to teach you on how to cultivate an achievers mindset, what would you guess?
You are probably thinking things like: doing affirmations, or creative visualizations or guided meditations, or putting your goals on a post-it note and sticking them to your mirror or a vision board or listening to a recorded version of yourself saying, “I am happy, I am healthy, I am terrific!”
Ah, no. While all those things are fine and well (but weird), in my opinion they have nothing to do with achievement.
Note that I am talking about an Achievers Mindset. Not the ‘Happy Mindset’ or the ‘Make-Yourself-Feel-Good-Mindset’. We are after the mindset that produces results.
To have an Achievers Mindset is to have the mental discipline to push yourself through the long, sometimes grueling and sometimes painfully, hard work it takes to achieve. And really the only thing keeping you from doing it, and the only thing that will ultimately power you through it is your mind.
As my Spin instructor says repeatedly, “Your legs can go harder, faster and longer than you think… all that is keeping them from doing so is your mind. Push it!!”
Thus you need an achievers mindset to push yourself to do the things necessary to achieve the big goals you have set for 2012 (you do have big goals for 2012, don’t you?)
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Let me give you a brilliant example of what I am talking about. On the cover of our November 2010 issue of SUCCESS we had the Manning Family and the feature was titled: Raising Champions. What Archie and Olivia passed on to their three sons was not genetics, talent or innate ability that propelled each of them into stratospheric success. What they passed on that created their collective great success was a mindset… an Achievers Mindset.
Let’s take Peyton Manning for instance. Peyton holds the record for the most NFL MVP awards and in 2009 was deemed player of the decade. In 2010 he was named the 8th best player in NFL history, the only one still active in the league. Point is the guy has done it, big time. But, how has he done it? Talent, giftedness or luck? Nah, those things are a product of what I will give you as the real answer.
Like Michael Jordon famously said, “Everyone has talent, but ability takes hard work.”
And that is how Peyton has racked up his achievements—hard work.
I read an article by Tom James of the Tribune-Star that reported on the “magic” behind Peyton’s success. Tom wrote, “Manning has forged his success in the things we don’t see, including tireless preparation for every imaginable detail before ever taking the field.”
The Colts head coach Jim Caldwell says, “He has an extraordinary ability to concentrate and focus on getting better. Not just in the overall work that we do from day-to-day in practice but I’m talking about the little details. In drill work — he acts as if it’s the last play of a big game and he’s got to do it right. Even when we’re warming up, at the beginning (of practice), he’s working on his accuracy. He’s got an extraordinary ability to focus on getting better.”
The former offensive coordinator of the Colts, Tom Moore says this of Peyton, “He’s constantly looking to try to improve. Working on the little things. He keeps developing. One thing about him, he’s never satisfied. And he wants to keep getting better. He works at it. And that’s to his credit.”
That’s our first tip on developing an achievers mindset—we have to be willing to work harder, be more focused, have deeper concentration, longer, more regularly, with more discipline and vigor than anyone else.
Next is no matter how successful Peyton has been he is relentless in his pursuit to be better, and he does this by reviewing results. After Peyton broke a number of performance records while taking his team to the NFL Championship in 2007, Peyton was certain his final touchdown tally could have been higher. The following year he met with the quarterback coach and the offensive coordinator every morning at 7:15am to review the game tapes—the sack tapes, interceptions, touchdowns and missed touchdown opportunities. He was and is unrelenting in reviewing his performance in the pursuit of improving.
How about you? How often are you sitting down with yourself and doing a proper Plan, Do, Review… reviewing your performance and masterminding on how you can iterate or improve next time?
How often are you sitting down with your key advisors or even your team and asking for input, feedback and ideas to improve your prior performance? Champions do it, why not you?
Let me sum up the achievers mindset as Tom Moore sums up Peyton Manning, he says, “Peyton, he studies. He’s looking at film. He’s always trying to get better. He’s a true professional. A lot of guys talk about wanting to be great. But Peyton, he does what you have to do to be great, with his work ethic, his offseason work habits, his preparation and his just hard work.”
Interesting isn’t it? The word “work” was in that single summing sentence three times. That’s gotta be a clue don’t ya think?
If you thought you were going to stand on the platform at the end of 2012 victorious without driving yourself through long, hard, painful and sometimes punishing work, think again. Just remember, your body and spirit are FAR stronger than your mind will try to let you believe. Repeatedly push past that barrier, your greater potential and the achievement of your greatest goals await on the other side.
When you hit your mental wall, what do you do to push yourself past it? Share your tips in the comments below.
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Working hard is easy. Knowing whether you are working smart or taking the wrong approach is much more difficult. Today’s world is changing so fast the old formulas don’t apply.
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I drastically improved my golf swing after video taping it and watching it again. How can we do that in staff meetings, board meetings, planning meetings, and other work related activities? There is no video tape in the room. Going by your memory of the event is not effective according to Jim Rohn, Journaling is … another tool in the box!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 4:56 pm
Who says there can’t be a recorder in the room during meetings, Bill?
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Bill Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 11:45 am
@Darren Hardy, a litigious culture thats who! Unfortunately. But, I am going to record some of the meetings with my team that I lead. This will be helpful and should keep me out of trouble!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:00 pm
Good comprimise, Bill!
I focus on my WHY. If you work, learn, do what ever it takes for your WHY, then the effort will seem easy, and the motivation and discipline to continue will only get stronger
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julia skeesick Reply:
January 21st, 2012 at 9:31 pm
@Alex, the why is the underlying focus and motivation but we must be willing to work hard and with great effort toward our goals as this post states so well. That effort and relentless pursuit of excellence makes the why a reality.
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Someone finally pointed out why I’ve gotten nowhere with my goals. I was always afraid to admit that I’d have to WORK for it!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 4:57 pm
Keep that someone close by, Tami!
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Thanks Darren! The mind is so powerful! I’ve rarely used my left side since having bypass surgery in 2004. Just yesterday, I began working with a physical therapist and after a full examination he said, “My challenge is getting your mind right. Your brain is convinced that you can’t use that side. We need to work on your brain just as much as we’ll work on your body.” Applicable to everything!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 4:58 pm
Very TRUE, Stephanie! Good luck with your physical therapy and keep us posted!
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To create that “extra push” when things get tough or just plain adverse and my mind or body screams at me to stop, I think of the captain of the Bonhomme Richard, John Paul Jones who is quoted saying, “I have not yet begun to fight”. He had taken cannon fire all day long from the British and his ship’s side was riddled with holes and the deck swimming with blood. The battle was fierce, the British was tired and demanded Jones to surrender. When it seemed the logical thing to do would be to quit and at least save his and his crews’ lives, Jones turned his ship around and faced the British with the other side that had not yet taken fire. Then he stated his famous quote, “I have not yet begun to fight!”. That was the determining factor that caused Jones to win that battle.
I figure if he could do it against great odds, with no certain outcome, with no promise of victory, with his life and the lives of his crew at stake, then what have I to lose with this goal that isn’t even coming close to threatening my life? If I quit here, then I am surely not going to make the goal. I have discovered when I’m at the “wall”, if I reinforce my goal to make me know it’s going to be worth it, readjust my mindset to maintain direction, and focus on making the outcome, it will work. I have to ask myself, “What would the outcome be if Jones had quit and surrendered?” History would certainly be different. I’d rather know I tried with all my might to succeed than to quit and never know if I would have succeeded. I have not yet begun to fight! … we still have a few more cannon balls!
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I know that successful people make it a habit of doing things that they don’t want to do. (Like breaking beyond a mental wall.) So when I hit a wall, I ask myself this simple question, “What’s the one thing that I don’t want to do today, but if I did it, would move my life and or business forward?” Once I identify the thing I don’t want to do, I go out and do that thing! Overtime, you begin doing things that you never thought was possible.
Keep breaking through the walls. Great Post Darren! Congrats on your book by the way!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 17th, 2012 at 4:58 pm
That’s right, Mark! Gotta EAT THAT FROG early!!!
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When you hit your mental wall, what do you do to push yourself past it?
Darren, when I hit my mental wall, I go for a run to clear my mind, re-group and tap into the collective thought of our team. By doing so, I have found that individually I’m strong but as a collective team we become unstoppable!
Happy New Year Darren!
Best Regards,
Barry
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It is interesting the idea of continuing improvement. Actually there is a book that is called “Talent is overrated”. In there the author says that what distinguishes the greatest achievers in any activivty is something he calls “delibarate practice”. Which is basically what Peyton does. He doesnt simply trainn every day to “keep in shape” or to “keep his game”. He is working everyday to improve his performance by working on the areas of the game where is not proficcient enough or at least he is not satisfied. That kind of training is difficult and demanding. Keeping that kind of regime for years is so difficult that very few people are willing to put themselves through that. And that is what distinguishes over achivers from the rest.
I have to figure my own schemes of “deliberate practice” in my activities in order to improve my results continually.
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:06 pm
Excellent advice, Daniel! I also talk about this in The Compound Effect.
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When I hit a mental wall I ask:
“What if this is not Happening To Me, but it is Happening For Me?”
Then instead of pushing past it, I can thrive through it!
Allowing this experience to give some empowering meaning to the memory,
with the hope to inspire growth for me and others involved!
Movin Forward, Gettin Betta all the Time! YES!
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The best way I’ve found to push through a mental block is to learn by reading, listening, watching, or doing. Usually, I find someone out there who seems to have just the right wisdom to spark my creative process.
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I’ve thought as long as I can remember pushing to the front that I was not smarter than those around me, just harder working. I’ve come to realize that whatever intelligence I do have I put to use maximizing the output from the hard work I can muster up. There are many ways to say the same thing, 1% inspiration / 99% perspiration.
Never stop.
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Darren,
Thank you so much for the great advice! I have been burning myself out doing too much and not focused on the 3-5 things of my business that would make it or break it. So here we go. Wish us success as we embark on an incredible journey!
Connie
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:05 pm
Wishing you GREAT SUCCESS, Connie! Keep us posted!
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When I hit a mental wall, the first step I take is sit down by myself, turn on some deep mental music ie.. Yanni and sit and think what i’m doing wrong and try to figure an out. Many of times I have found the answer and many I couldn’t, but the feeling was a sense of relieve, it is then that I past thru the wall, it is all mental…..
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Truth is both practical and simple.
In this case, I think to get past your mental wall,simply to focus on:
1- A dream realized after the goal has been achieved
2- Take a series of deep breaths or meditation or both
3- Exercise cardio for 30mn, the harder the better.
Thanks Darren, for pushing the bar and always exceeding our expectations
I will Update next tuesday here if I achieved my three week goals, I know you will read this (small PDA of mine)
Antonio Soler, M.D.
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:04 pm
Looking forward to your follow-up, Antonio!
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I have often hit the wall, and found it easier and better to watch TV or ignore my goals because it does not require effort or work. However what always ends up happening is this. I look around at the people I DONT want to be like. I see their lives working for hard unrelenting bosses for piss poor pay. I see them in bad relationships, and failed marriages. I see them collecting a box full of dreams that they will NEVER have the courage to achieve. I see this and I say to myself THIS WILL NOT BE ME! That will NEVER be my life! I am better then that and I deserve better then that! Once I say that I remember that all things deserved must be earned first. Then I get off the couch, pull out my list of goals, and get back to work!
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:04 pm
That’s right! STAY OFF the couch, Jason!!! And away from the media too!
http://darrenhardy.success.com/2010/03/how-to-change-the-world/
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I put more of a focus on my vision. Theme music and bright high definition colors are essential to imagining what you want. I refine myself in faith and purpose. Obstacles are a reflection of what’s going on in your inner world. When I hit a mental wall, I cheer myself on how limitless the creator is.
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What has helped me Mr Hardy to break past the walls has been YOUR insistence on focusing on what not keep doing and what to do more of!! You make me stay focused on staying efficient in creating and enforcing value!!
Thanks for all you do!
Have a magical day!!
Corey J
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Suzanne Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 3:27 pm
@Corey Jahnke,
Corey, have you read Darren’s post about how he used a stopwatch to track what he did with his time? The link to it is below in case you want to read it
After reading that I bought a stopwatch which helps me track how I spend my time. I am nowhere near where I want to be but am getting there.
http://darrenhardy.success.com/2009/11/showtime/
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Darren Hardy Reply:
January 18th, 2012 at 5:01 pm
Glad to be of service, Corey!!!
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Whenever I hit a mental block, I push myself past by reading & reciting a quote I have written on my office wall that you said at an ACN Convention…
Do what you don’t want to do!
Do it now!
Do it everyday!
…and I’m back in the game!
Thanks for all you do. My brother and I are 3 states away from each other, but we touch base each week to go over our goal reviews from Design Your Best Year Ever. Looking forward to hearing you again in Charlotte in February!
Tim
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Someone said that working hard is EASY? It is not easy for those who do not have an achiever’s mindset. Not one person in my family is what I would call an achiever. We are all over weight, none of us finished college, none of us have any money. I was raised to be mediocre…seriously. THAT is the mindset my family has always had. I have struggled my entire life to be MORE. I am reading the Compound Effect and it’s changing everything for me. I am 3 weeks into a diet, 3 weeks into a new way of thinking. Today…I’m struggling. I have a lot of HARD WORK to do right now and I.AM.STRUGGLING. Pushing past THIS…is the hardest thing I will ever do…but this time…my MIND is different. It’s like a light has been turned on and I get it. So…I would appreciate good thoughts my way as I WORK on the things that need to be done. Thanks Darren…you’re quickly becoming a huge part of every day.
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Wesley McMurray Reply:
January 19th, 2012 at 6:46 am
@Lana, keep the Faith Lana. You like all of us are here are on this ‘blog’ because WE are Thirsty. Some more than others and some require more assistance and guidance than others. Darren is giving US all the ‘means’ to quench that thirst and indeed to Live Our Lives to the our full Potential!! Let’s Follow through, be our Best and Keep ON Keeping ON
A Big Thanks to ya Darren
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I know that I have inherited the “achievers mindset” . . . and a mind is a terrible thing to waste.
I’m a very blessed girl . . . it has kept me through the hard times. You just can’t quit . . . . it’s not in your DNA . . . for real.
Gotta spread the “good stuff” around . . . thanks Darren . . . loved the post.
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I know that I inherited the “achievers mindset” and it was precious seed. . .
But now . . my intention is to pass it on . . what a worthy gift.
My team, my family . . all within my influence can have a taste . . . they’ll want more . .
thanks the great post . . . I have great DNA!
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The issue with the Mannings was a great one.
This article immediately reminded me of another football great, Roger Staubach.
Roger “Dodger” said two things that are well-ingrained in me: “Spectacular performance comes from unspectacular preparation,” and “There are no traffic jams along the extra mile.”
Thank you for inspiring us to become more powerful versions of ourselves.
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Suzanne Reply:
January 23rd, 2012 at 10:31 am
@Joel Boggess,
“There are no traffic jams along the extra mile.” – never heard that one, it’s great.
One of my favorites is:
“Nothing will work unless you do.”
– John Wooden
Maybe I should start paying attention to football
[Go Giants!
]
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I truly agree with you Darren.I used affirmations,visualizations,etc…I help out! But you have to
motivated yourself,that you can achieve.As a 5 year old boy,I wanted to have superpowers.
I had to developed a extraordinary mind-set and work ethic to achieve this! Now! I’m a
13x world record holder in strength&conditioning on RecordSetter.
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