Posts Tagged ‘failure’

I Love the F-Word

Posted in SUCCESS on September 3rd, 2013 by Darren Hardy –

October 2013 SUCCESS MagazineBy f-word I mean FAILURE.
(What did you think I meant?)

Failure is not my friend.
I don’t like failure.

I LOVE it.
And you should, too.

Here’s why.

I first met and fell in love with Failure in the early ’90s, when I got into the real estate business. Back then the market was tough. Really tough. And I was a 20-year-old kid with no experience, no clientele and no credibility while trying to make my mark.

Heck, I wasn’t even old enough to drink. I needed guidance. So when I went to my first seminar, I asked the lecturer to lunch. I wanted to get his best tip for being successful in real estate.

His answer?
“Go fail.” “

Huh?” was my reply.
He elaborated, “Go fail—a lot—and fast.”

I said, “Hey, man (language of a 20-year-old), I thought the whole idea of success was to avoid failure.”

“Quite the opposite,” he replied.
Then he recited a quote by Tom Watson of IBM: “The key to success is read more »

I Was Cut!

Posted in SUCCESS on August 20th, 2013 by Darren Hardy –

CutI’m going to tell you a story I haven’t told anyone.

I’ve not even told this story to my wife (now we’ll see if she reads my blog!). I don’t even allow this story to be retrieved from the archives of my own mind.

But I’ve decided it’s time.
So here it is:

When I was 12 years old I tried out for the Crusaders. It was a local Pop Warner full-contact football team.

During the second round of tryouts…

I was cut.

There I said it.
I didn’t make it.
I was cut from the team.

I know this doesn’t sound that traumatic, but for me it was.
It really was.

If you remember, I was raised by a single orlistat father who, by profession, was a University football coach. I grew up on the football field next to my dad.

I ate with the players at the training table. The cook, Mrs. Rosa, loved me. She was my one of my surrogate moms, really. She saw to it that I was the first to eat and got the special dessert.

You can say I grew up on the football field. I was always with my dad. Probably because he didn’t have anywhere else he could leave me anyway.

I witnessed every practice and every verbal whipping my dad gave every player, with spit sputtering through his clenched teeth and the veins in his neck bulging as if to blow. I’ve mentioned before the Vietnam-like flashbacks I get when watching Gunnery Sergeant Hartman in the movie Full Metal Jacket, right? He and my dad could be twins.

Anyway, my dad was my idol. He was all I had. He was my route to the universe, the only thing I knew God to be at that point. I did everything I could to make my dad proud. And my worst fear in life at that point was to ever disappoint him.

So now the story gets worse.
Much worse. read more »

Knocked on Your Tush (Part 4 of 4)

Posted in SUCCESS on March 1st, 2011 by Darren Hardy –

Darren Hardy blog_Ski fallFinishing up our series on what you do when you take one to the kisser, knocking you on your rump… (Read part 1,  234)

Here is Point No. 3: Turn obstacles into opportunities. Ask any great achiever who has achieved despite great obstacles, if they could go back and avoid the obstacle, would they, and the answer invariably is “no.” Even our friend Roger (born handicapped with only three fingers, one foot and three toes), if given the opportunity to have perfectly formed arms, legs, hands and feet, would chose to be born the same way he was.

This is true for Lance Armstrong and his battle with cancer. It wasn’t until after he fought and beat cancer that he developed the strength to beat everyone in the world, seven times, in one of the most grueling and punishing sport contests there is—The Tour de France.

Ask the woman heralded as the “fastest women on earth” in the 1960 Olympics, Wilma Rudolph, if she would go back and wish not to have suffered measles, scarlet fever, whooping cough and be born with polio, twisting her left leg so bad that it required a brace. It was BECAUSE of those obstacles that she had to dig up her deeper and greater potential and drive. It required her to work harder, longer and with more determination than any would-be competitor. That character, forged through difficulty, is what created the extraordinary achievements and opportunities she realized. As Albert Mensah said so eloquently to me in a recent interview, “Opportunities are cloaked in obstacles.”

In fact, to take this one step further, I have learned to see obstacles, failure and pain as positive and necessary for growth. I learned this early on from my dad, whose mantra in life was read more »

Knocked on Your Tush (Part 1 of 4)

Posted in SUCCESS on February 15th, 2011 by Darren Hardy –

(Read part 1,  23, 4)

If you’ve read this blog for a while, you know I like to point your attention and creative imagination toward what’s positive and what’s possible in the world—to look for and see the abundance, potential and opportunities of life.

And that is a good thing… and a very necessary thing if we want to move our lives in a positive direction and toward that greater abundance.

BUT, what do you do when you get knocked down? And you will. This is LIFE we are talking about. It is not always blue skies, singing birds and pretty rainbows outside. Sometimes it rains, sometimes it even storms and sometimes it even comes with the added drama (and potential pain) of lightening and thunder. What do you do then, Mr. Sunshine?

That is what we are going to address in this four-part series: When you get knocked on your tush in life, how do you get back up so you are not knocked OUT?

The interesting thing is, during the times of strife, struggle and challenge that the true achievers are born. Never mind the analogy of the true birth experience, having to overcome the incredible obstacles involved in literally being born. But after that first trying experience—and the slap of the doctor and your first cry—it is during the other challenges and obstacles of life when achievers are born.

Martin Luther King Jr. put it this way: “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge.” It is only when we are presented with those challenges that we get to separate ourselves from other men and women.

Imagine this: You are at the very top of your game. Let’s say that game is in one of the most competitive and rivaled fields in the entire world. After decades of painful discipline, sacrifice and relentless commitment, you finally rise to the top, the very top in fact, and then tragedy strikes….

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How Goal Achieving REALLY Works

Posted in Living Best Year Ever Series on December 21st, 2010 by Darren Hardy –

I promised you in the last video I would explain the process of how goal setting, and far more important, goal ACHIEVING actually works. This is the mystery of the ‘secret’ REVEALED.

This is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not some mysterious, esoteric voodoo, as it sometimes sounds like, as it is being described. It’s far simpler and more practical than that.

By the end you will say… “Ah, I get it.” And, “Now… I know how to make it work.”

More good stuff to discover in this video:

  • What 3 boys out hiking can teach you about kicking butt in a competition.
  • 5 BIG reasons why most goal setting attempts fail, miserably. Don't make these mistakes. Ouch! And costly.
  • Oh, and what Reggie Hammond (as played by Eddie Murphy) can teach you about proclaiming your goals.

In the next (and final… don't be sad) video I will show you how to I can help navigate you through all the potential pitfalls to insure you have the precise formula for achieving the boldest goals and wildest ambitions you can dream up.

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